Dating a secure after a FA
Nov 27, 2018 21:00:27 GMT
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Post by cardinal on Nov 27, 2018 21:00:27 GMT
I used to come here all the time after a complicated relationship with an FA I knew ended. It left me heartbroken, unable to trust, damaged my sense of self-worth, etc. I went to counselling and learned how he treated me was manipulative/emotionally abusive.
I recently just got out of a 8 month long relationship with a secure man. He was absolutely wonderful and showed me what a good boyfriend looks like. I could be honest and open to him about my needs, I could ask for affection, and I could be affectionate with him without worrying about causing some kind of heartbreaking push-pull cycle and for him to actually respond in kind without ghosting me or saying I was being too demanding for asking for basic relationship needs. When he broke up with me, all the reasons made sense and I knew he was telling me everything he had do say. Once you date someone who has their head on straight about intimacy, it's a whole new world.
Although I'm heartbroken it ended, he gave me his everything and treated me well. It really showed me how important secure relationships are.
I recently just got out of a 8 month long relationship with a secure man. He was absolutely wonderful and showed me what a good boyfriend looks like. I could be honest and open to him about my needs, I could ask for affection, and I could be affectionate with him without worrying about causing some kind of heartbreaking push-pull cycle and for him to actually respond in kind without ghosting me or saying I was being too demanding for asking for basic relationship needs. When he broke up with me, all the reasons made sense and I knew he was telling me everything he had do say. Once you date someone who has their head on straight about intimacy, it's a whole new world.
Although I'm heartbroken it ended, he gave me his everything and treated me well. It really showed me how important secure relationships are.