Responding to Negative Criticism from FA

Helsbells , his focus on physical and appearance probably stems from him feeling bad about who he is underneath and that he's damaged and unacceptable somehow "soul"-wise, but he has more ways to control superficial stuff which is lauded in western society anyway (people can really overvalue physical attraction), so it makes him feel better if he is more confident he can "offer" that and therefore also judgemental about those attributes in others. It's also possible he had someone close to him in childhood who overvalued physical appearance and their acceptance of him was too conditionally wrapped up in that, so that's what he learned to prioritize.