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Post by waeric77 on Feb 28, 2019 8:37:11 GMT
I am 41 years old. She is 34. She is a dismissive avoidant. We are in a three-year relationship and much like everything I’ve read, it started out great. The first couple of months were wonderful. And then begin the distancing. She completely separated herself from the relationship. She quit having sex. It felt like we were roommates for a long time. I miss her, and I miss our Home and our cats. I’m wondering if there is any advice in terms of trying to win her back? I know initially I was probably pretty clingy which would chase her away. This is of course all in hindsight at this point. I’ve given her space, and I’m trying to rebuild some rapport through text messaging. I’m wondering if any dismissive avoidant emails out there would be willing to give some advice, tips, Recommended approach is to trying to build rapport and get her open to the idea. We had a really great relationship otherwise… Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2019 14:58:27 GMT
I am 41 years old. She is 34. She is a dismissive avoidant. We are in a three-year relationship and much like everything I’ve read, it started out great. The first couple of months were wonderful. And then begin the distancing. She completely separated herself from the relationship. She quit having sex. It felt like we were roommates for a long time. I miss her, and I miss our Home and our cats. I’m wondering if there is any advice in terms of trying to win her back? I know initially I was probably pretty clingy which would chase her away. This is of course all in hindsight at this point. I’ve given her space, and I’m trying to rebuild some rapport through text messaging. I’m wondering if any dismissive avoidant emails out there would be willing to give some advice, tips, Recommended approach is to trying to build rapport and get her open to the idea. We had a really great relationship otherwise… Any help would be greatly appreciated. Hi, as a DA female myself I would first ask you, have you had this conversation with her directly, expressing yourself as you did here? If you haven't, I question your ability to have a relationship based on emotional availability, vulnerability, assertiveness, trust, and respect. I think it's a bad idea to try to approach a relationship indirectly, or get someone to open to an idea. I myself prefer a direct approach. There is the risk of rejection in simply stating your desires and intentions, but if the fear of rejection inhibits your ability to communicate honestly and with emotional integrity then that is your issue to work on. My ex approached me for reconciliation and I declined, but we have a groundwork for improving rapport based on the conversations that ensued. That's the starting point for any relationship at all, two people being open and honest and working together instead of one person running a secret agenda. |
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