Post by kristyrose on Jun 21, 2019 5:19:58 GMT
Hey everyone,
As I continue to move on from my relationship with my ex, I've noticed as time has passed I'm experiencing moments where I'm flooded with intrusive thoughts of bad memories. For instance I will think of a time when he either said something really harsh or did something shitty to me and I experience it all over again. There is a going away party for mutual friends of ours and I am skipping it this weekend to avoid even seeing him. My friends are upset I'm not going but understanding of course, however I'm wondering if this upcoming party is triggering me. The fact that he will be there, that I will miss it, that I'm terrified of going and seeing him... I don't know. Just trying to figure this all out as I go.
I did EMDR last year with my therapist for childhood trauma I experienced, but I think it may be good to try the EMDR on memories of this relationship to properly work through it.
Just posting to see if anyone else who has walked away from an anxious/avoidant type relationship has experienced this as well. It's not a feeling of longing for him, its more like just sheer pain, anger and feelings of rejection and abandonment that come into play. Also some terror at the thought of seeing him, not so much hearing from him since I've blocked him.
As I continue to move on from my relationship with my ex, I've noticed as time has passed I'm experiencing moments where I'm flooded with intrusive thoughts of bad memories. For instance I will think of a time when he either said something really harsh or did something shitty to me and I experience it all over again. There is a going away party for mutual friends of ours and I am skipping it this weekend to avoid even seeing him. My friends are upset I'm not going but understanding of course, however I'm wondering if this upcoming party is triggering me. The fact that he will be there, that I will miss it, that I'm terrified of going and seeing him... I don't know. Just trying to figure this all out as I go.
I did EMDR last year with my therapist for childhood trauma I experienced, but I think it may be good to try the EMDR on memories of this relationship to properly work through it.
Just posting to see if anyone else who has walked away from an anxious/avoidant type relationship has experienced this as well. It's not a feeling of longing for him, its more like just sheer pain, anger and feelings of rejection and abandonment that come into play. Also some terror at the thought of seeing him, not so much hearing from him since I've blocked him.