Post by screwdisaster on Jun 25, 2019 11:11:38 GMT
Evenin all - 30s man working from AP to Secure here. Just wanted to ask all my fellow APs; have you ever noticed that going through an anxiety event makes time go reeeeeaaaallly slow?
Here's the event; me and SO are in a troubling time right now. Last Thursday we had a really huge day: we unpacked all our emotions, talked about how life can get in the way, that wanting to be together isn't always enough, but how this attachment is powerful. Heavy, but not harsh; we were kind to each other. (SO is a self-aware DA.) We met for a lunchbreak coffee on Sunday just to check in, it was nice. We're going for another today. Yesterday we didn't text, I think she was feeling a little overwhelmed and though I felt the urge to, I thought it best to ease off and let her breathe a bit. So, just one day of no contact, after a warm coffee date with some really sweet mutual care / contact.
Well the way my head and heart were screaming you'd have thunk SO had gone off to fight in the Crusades. Time went like treacle.
Here's the context. I've been with a DA for 2 years. Things are starting to get real; I believe SO's feeling like she should be wanting to move in, etc, and although I'd like to progress things, I make sure not to put any pressure on SO. but I think she's letting herself feel smothered by implication. She's got a lot of work stress on - she literally won't stop working but tbh I'm the same so that's not a problem for me - and a few weeks ago I had a lot of work stress too, which led to us both letting our attachment styles get the better of us.
So yeah, to summarise a ramble - have any of my AP brethren ever looked a clock during a bad / no contact time and wondered what its effin problem was?
I feel making a note of this reality distortion has been somewhat helpful.
Here's the event; me and SO are in a troubling time right now. Last Thursday we had a really huge day: we unpacked all our emotions, talked about how life can get in the way, that wanting to be together isn't always enough, but how this attachment is powerful. Heavy, but not harsh; we were kind to each other. (SO is a self-aware DA.) We met for a lunchbreak coffee on Sunday just to check in, it was nice. We're going for another today. Yesterday we didn't text, I think she was feeling a little overwhelmed and though I felt the urge to, I thought it best to ease off and let her breathe a bit. So, just one day of no contact, after a warm coffee date with some really sweet mutual care / contact.
Well the way my head and heart were screaming you'd have thunk SO had gone off to fight in the Crusades. Time went like treacle.
Here's the context. I've been with a DA for 2 years. Things are starting to get real; I believe SO's feeling like she should be wanting to move in, etc, and although I'd like to progress things, I make sure not to put any pressure on SO. but I think she's letting herself feel smothered by implication. She's got a lot of work stress on - she literally won't stop working but tbh I'm the same so that's not a problem for me - and a few weeks ago I had a lot of work stress too, which led to us both letting our attachment styles get the better of us.
So yeah, to summarise a ramble - have any of my AP brethren ever looked a clock during a bad / no contact time and wondered what its effin problem was?
I feel making a note of this reality distortion has been somewhat helpful.
