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Post by hannah99 on Jul 24, 2019 7:57:09 GMT
Recently, from conversations with my therapist I realised I remember very little from my childhood. I also was previously in an abusive relationship and realised there are big patches in my memory of that time too.
Now, going through a breakup, happy memories of my relationship have been flooding my mind at random moments very vividly.
I just wondered if any other aps had similar experiences and if there were any other patterns in the other attachment types.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2019 11:46:06 GMT
Maybe the brain blocks certain events. Especially painful.
It's always easier to block out the bad and wanting to keep hold of the good memories.
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Post by gaynxious on Jul 25, 2019 21:28:13 GMT
Avoidants typically have poor autobiographical memory especially of childhood. This is because they do not typically have access to the emotional quality of memory that our brains use to locate event based memories.
APs generally have good memories because we do have access to this part of memory but it also means we can react to things that remind us of previous emotional responses without having a conscious understanding of why.
APs do typically forget bad memories and hold on to good ones. That is part of why we stay in bad relationships. When we leave or think about leaving we are flooded with good memories while the memories of our pain are muted until the next conflict.
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Post by hannah99 on Jul 25, 2019 22:28:03 GMT
That's really helpful info. Thank you.
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Post by leavethelighton on Jul 26, 2019 0:28:40 GMT
I remember almost nothing before age 5.
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