Post by eternalsunshine on Oct 6, 2019 20:11:42 GMT
Hi all, I’m worried my ex is suicidal. We were doing no contact but then we started drunkenly emailing one another, not a good idea, I know. He has never told me that he gets suicidal but he has illuded to it before by mentioning that there were times he hasn’t wanted to live.
The last set of emails he sent me sounded distressed and we both decided to cut off contact again but I told him if he truly needed me for any emergency I am here for him. Due to the way he is though I doubt he would. His distress was saying how much pain he was in, he’s finding it difficult to leave the house bc of his grief, and that he misses me even though he thinks staying friends is futile. He said he won’t email me again. I suggested two months of no contact, for our mental health, and he must agree or mean never again because no word back.
So now every day for the last few days I’ve been worried about him. I regret not asking if he wanted me to check in on him but part of this is I’m worried that I make his life worse just by being me, I’m AP, so I’ve felt conflicted on what to do. He’s experienced depression his whole life so I know he’s got his coping mechanisms and patterns to deal with it. We have some mutual friends but I would feel intrusive asking them to check in on him because I know he would resent it. I’ve also asked two of them a couple of weeks ago and they said he seemed his normal stressed out self.
So now I’m wondering if I should ask his friends to check in on him or leave it alone? At this point I just feel like a thorn in his side and like anything I do will make it worse.
The last set of emails he sent me sounded distressed and we both decided to cut off contact again but I told him if he truly needed me for any emergency I am here for him. Due to the way he is though I doubt he would. His distress was saying how much pain he was in, he’s finding it difficult to leave the house bc of his grief, and that he misses me even though he thinks staying friends is futile. He said he won’t email me again. I suggested two months of no contact, for our mental health, and he must agree or mean never again because no word back.
So now every day for the last few days I’ve been worried about him. I regret not asking if he wanted me to check in on him but part of this is I’m worried that I make his life worse just by being me, I’m AP, so I’ve felt conflicted on what to do. He’s experienced depression his whole life so I know he’s got his coping mechanisms and patterns to deal with it. We have some mutual friends but I would feel intrusive asking them to check in on him because I know he would resent it. I’ve also asked two of them a couple of weeks ago and they said he seemed his normal stressed out self.
So now I’m wondering if I should ask his friends to check in on him or leave it alone? At this point I just feel like a thorn in his side and like anything I do will make it worse.