Why can fa's be so god damn attractive ?
Jan 13, 2020 10:08:14 GMT
tnr9, bohemianraspberry, and 2 more like this
Post by anne12 on Jan 13, 2020 10:08:14 GMT
@bohemianraspberry
"A very masculine desorganised man can be almost Irresistible.
This is how I experienced my FA as well. Maybe it was the combination of the masculinity and the vulnerability that he had shared with very few before me.
Or how will you explain that?"
You know you - I don't.
I do not think I can explain it - but I can try to give you some input.....
The FA can fall in love fast, can come on strong and can be very intence in lovelife (and sometimes also in their sexlife). They can make a new loveinterest feel very special, like they have never felt like this incredible love before. They can seem very much "alive" - also with their upper body.
They often go way out of their tolerance window.
Theres high intensity in their nerveussystem.
They can override their own/and, or other peoples boundaries because of this too and because they can be desociated. This can also be caused by other kind of trauma. (If from childhood they had to override their natural fight fight instinct by their need for attatchment)
Remember that everything is on a spectrum and people can be different.
They can be very flirtacious, charming ect.
To a person with some ambivalent attatchment the person with some desorganised attatchment style can be very very attractive, because it can activate their childhood memories. "Here now, but gone tomorrow"
Often times the person with some ambivalent attatchment style can be more feminine.
So if they meet a masculine fa, there can be a lot of sparks and chemestry.
You never know with people , with desorganisedattatchment or trauma...
The more polarised femine/masculine energy, the more sparks and attraction and sexual chemistry.
There can also be attraction because of your imago template.
Maybe one of your parents got some fa / trauma ? Maybe you yourself got some desorganised attatchment style/chock trauma (IT could only be 5-10 percent) ? And you like drama yourself ?
Your inner anima/animus picture of what you think is a real man.
Maybe you are more feminie in your own core ?
What did he activate in You ?
Maybe some other board members can chim in about their own experiences
You can try to look in the healing desorganised / fa attatchment thread and in the dating thread.(,general forum)
There is also an examble in the dating thread with an attatchment/SE/trauma therapist working with a woman on how to get more in touch with her feminine side/her feminie essens.
"A very masculine desorganised man can be almost Irresistible.
This is how I experienced my FA as well. Maybe it was the combination of the masculinity and the vulnerability that he had shared with very few before me.
Or how will you explain that?"
You know you - I don't.
I do not think I can explain it - but I can try to give you some input.....
The FA can fall in love fast, can come on strong and can be very intence in lovelife (and sometimes also in their sexlife). They can make a new loveinterest feel very special, like they have never felt like this incredible love before. They can seem very much "alive" - also with their upper body.
They often go way out of their tolerance window.
Theres high intensity in their nerveussystem.
They can override their own/and, or other peoples boundaries because of this too and because they can be desociated. This can also be caused by other kind of trauma. (If from childhood they had to override their natural fight fight instinct by their need for attatchment)
Remember that everything is on a spectrum and people can be different.
They can be very flirtacious, charming ect.
To a person with some ambivalent attatchment the person with some desorganised attatchment style can be very very attractive, because it can activate their childhood memories. "Here now, but gone tomorrow"
Often times the person with some ambivalent attatchment style can be more feminine.
So if they meet a masculine fa, there can be a lot of sparks and chemestry.
You never know with people , with desorganisedattatchment or trauma...
The more polarised femine/masculine energy, the more sparks and attraction and sexual chemistry.
There can also be attraction because of your imago template.
Maybe one of your parents got some fa / trauma ? Maybe you yourself got some desorganised attatchment style/chock trauma (IT could only be 5-10 percent) ? And you like drama yourself ?
Your inner anima/animus picture of what you think is a real man.
Maybe you are more feminie in your own core ?
What did he activate in You ?
Maybe some other board members can chim in about their own experiences
You can try to look in the healing desorganised / fa attatchment thread and in the dating thread.(,general forum)
There is also an examble in the dating thread with an attatchment/SE/trauma therapist working with a woman on how to get more in touch with her feminine side/her feminie essens.
