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Post by dullboat123 on Aug 23, 2021 23:09:02 GMT
A lot of time…it is the way a topic is presented that causes people to get defensive. Presenting a concern from an inquiry perspective is usually better. Such as…I have found it incredibly challenging as someone with an Asian background to find a suitable partner. I have read that other Asian and minority men are experiencing the same challenge. What are your thoughts? This opens dialogue….if they disagree, then ask more questions….but I think it might serve you best to find a group of single Asian/minority men who you can share life stories with. I do think there are women who are single and willing to travel and would love to be a step mom….I think it requires you being open and taking a leap of faith so to speak. Great idea. I'll bear that in mind. Problem is, getting my foot in the door in terms of attraction is another thing. This article came in just in time. The most jarring comment in there which struck a nerve is - "Your first instinct is like, 'Well, if I just behave a certain way or have a certain look, maybe I can overcome it.' And then you realise you can't.". I personally experienced this. Doesn't matter if I'm Positive Peter, it won't work. But then when I raise the issue of "sexual racism", people tend to go straight for the jugular, turning it around on me, saying I'm bitter. Check mate. Classic silencing move. www.abc.net.au/everyday/love-island-dating-type-blue-eyes-blonde-hair/100384494
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Post by tnr9 on Aug 24, 2021 15:17:28 GMT
A lot of time…it is the way a topic is presented that causes people to get defensive. Presenting a concern from an inquiry perspective is usually better. Such as…I have found it incredibly challenging as someone with an Asian background to find a suitable partner. I have read that other Asian and minority men are experiencing the same challenge. What are your thoughts? This opens dialogue….if they disagree, then ask more questions….but I think it might serve you best to find a group of single Asian/minority men who you can share life stories with. I do think there are women who are single and willing to travel and would love to be a step mom….I think it requires you being open and taking a leap of faith so to speak. Great idea. I'll bear that in mind. Problem is, getting my foot in the door in terms of attraction is another thing. This article came in just in time. The most jarring comment in there which struck a nerve is - "Your first instinct is like, 'Well, if I just behave a certain way or have a certain look, maybe I can overcome it.' And then you realise you can't.". I personally experienced this. Doesn't matter if I'm Positive Peter, it won't work. But then when I raise the issue of "sexual racism", people tend to go straight for the jugular, turning it around on me, saying I'm bitter. Check mate. Classic silencing move. www.abc.net.au/everyday/love-island-dating-type-blue-eyes-blonde-hair/100384494Right…but I don’t think that is the ideal in every country…nor do I think they interviewed every woman…..I take polls with a huge grain of salt knowing that the sample pool is often 1000 women or something along those lines. I believe there are 2 ways to look at this information…1. Get angry about the bias and complain about it or 2. Say…alright, there is a bias…but I am going to be the exception.
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Post by dullboat123 on Aug 25, 2021 4:23:57 GMT
What about traveling? I belong to a travel related Facebook page and lots of women speak to how they met someone on vacation. Perhaps it is worth exploring the world a bit and not getting frustrated at the local situation. I also agree with amber that it is worth looking at how you come across. Actually. Following your advice, I set my tinder profile to global and now I am chatting with a Brazilian lady. She has 2 kids and I have 2 too. Thing is, I really cannot imagine how the logistics is going to work.....
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Post by tnr9 on Aug 25, 2021 14:28:34 GMT
What about traveling? I belong to a travel related Facebook page and lots of women speak to how they met someone on vacation. Perhaps it is worth exploring the world a bit and not getting frustrated at the local situation. I also agree with amber that it is worth looking at how you come across. Actually. Following your advice, I set my tinder profile to global and now I am chatting with a Brazilian lady. She has 2 kids and I have 2 too. Thing is, I really cannot imagine how the logistics is going to work..... It is still early so you have plenty of time to see if you are a good fit first before you consider visiting each other.
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Post by dullboat123 on Aug 25, 2021 23:52:26 GMT
Actually. Following your advice, I set my tinder profile to global and now I am chatting with a Brazilian lady. She has 2 kids and I have 2 too. Thing is, I really cannot imagine how the logistics is going to work..... It is still early so you have plenty of time to see if you are a good fit first before you consider visiting each other. True true. I don't feel safe going by myself to Brazil to be honest. I'd much rather her to come to Australia or we meet somewhere in the middle.
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