Post by BreakingTheSpell on Jan 28, 2018 19:46:36 GMT
A big part of the community of posters here is going through or has recently gone through a divorce or a break up in their relationship.
Some others, struggling to keep their relationship stable after being aware of their attachment differences and how it triggers all sort of conflicts that deteriorate their relationship.
My question goes for everybody who has had at least one long term relationship in their past, in particular for those who have been married and or living together for 2+ years:
Do you think that, when your 2+ years-cohabitating-LTR started to crumble, it could have stood a chance, had you been aware of attachment traumas/differences and how to tackle them better?
I know this is pure speculation and the question posted above is one I have been asking myself lately... all my few past relationships were dysfunctional from the attachment style sort of view. Every other important thing like values were in place... the push/pull behavior and daily "mistreatments" followed by fights killed all my relationships.
Another question: did you have the feeling that, after committing (either saying "I do" or moving in together) your attachment issues and your partner's became even more severe? There is an article that describes this phenomenon and I just want to know if it actually happens in real life, and if you have experienced it in your own relationships. Do you perhaps feel like elaborating what changed after committing that triggered a worse fear of abandonment/rejection/enmeshment?
Thanks.
Some others, struggling to keep their relationship stable after being aware of their attachment differences and how it triggers all sort of conflicts that deteriorate their relationship.
My question goes for everybody who has had at least one long term relationship in their past, in particular for those who have been married and or living together for 2+ years:
Do you think that, when your 2+ years-cohabitating-LTR started to crumble, it could have stood a chance, had you been aware of attachment traumas/differences and how to tackle them better?
I know this is pure speculation and the question posted above is one I have been asking myself lately... all my few past relationships were dysfunctional from the attachment style sort of view. Every other important thing like values were in place... the push/pull behavior and daily "mistreatments" followed by fights killed all my relationships.
Another question: did you have the feeling that, after committing (either saying "I do" or moving in together) your attachment issues and your partner's became even more severe? There is an article that describes this phenomenon and I just want to know if it actually happens in real life, and if you have experienced it in your own relationships. Do you perhaps feel like elaborating what changed after committing that triggered a worse fear of abandonment/rejection/enmeshment?
Thanks.
