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Post by scheme00 on May 20, 2018 20:54:42 GMT
I don’t think this has anything to do with attachment style at all, rather a pattern he developed as a child where he would lie instead of telling the truth because he does not want people to think bad about him. Just like the last girl I dated, she thought it was acceptable to lie. I think that is more a result of family interdynamics than attachment style. Bottom line is that usually people that are used to lying won’t suddenly have a change of heart and change their pattern they are used to.
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Post by yasmin on May 20, 2018 21:48:03 GMT
Narcissists do this. It's called gaslighting.
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Post by Deleted on May 21, 2018 11:29:49 GMT
It doesn't seem like gaslighting to me.
Most people lie, for many reasons. Most likely, he didn't want to explain it to you -whatever the reason may be.
Your perception of him can be wrong. I'm stoic in nature, people often ask me why am I angry- I am not.
Angry can mean tired, worried, annoyed, anxious etc. If he is not in touch with his feelings and you're asking him to explain himself, of course he will dodge your questions.
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Post by tnr9 on May 21, 2018 16:41:26 GMT
It doesn't seem like gaslighting to me. Most people lie, for many reasons. Most likely, he didn't want to explain it to you -whatever the reason may be. Your perception of him can be wrong. I'm stoic in nature, people often ask me why am I angry- I am not. Angry can mean tired, worried, annoyed, anxious etc. If he is not in touch with his feelings and you're asking him to explain himself, of course he will dodge your questions. Totally off topic..but my mom is stoic also...very hard to read her feelings at times. |
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