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Post by ocarina on Jun 9, 2018 13:52:44 GMT
@ ocarina, to throw some avoidant tough love and humor in here.... time to come out of the pain closet, who do you think you're kidding? who do you think you are, some kind of special super human? people aren't stupid. you're isolating yourself and being stubborn and a bit unrealistic with all this avoidant crap. also with the anxious crap. just get real and get honest already. i know it's because you're scared.... and that's obvious. you think people don't see it? you think they don't already see the cracks? admit it and welcome yourself to the beauty of humanity. there are people waiting to welcome you! 😍😂😘😘😘😘 that's all love, i promise. been there done that. Like the kick ass approach Juniper - part of the fear is fear of rejection when you do show up real - it happened repeatedly with my mother, my ex partner basically evaporated when I was honest with him about how I feel - it took huge guts to even be real with him after years and years of acceptance on my part for his needs and little for my own. I know this is what I need to do - and to kick the excuses - as a typical avoidant I am over scheduled constantly - too much work, too many kids, too many projects, trips etc etc but this is really really important. I have always felt isolated and it's time to change that. In fact over the years I have become better and vulnerability but another leap to come now. Have you heard of Imposter Syndrome - this is me personified - well qualified and successful but feel like a total failure, youch - life's too short. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2018 13:58:18 GMT
@ ocarina, to throw some avoidant tough love and humor in here.... time to come out of the pain closet, who do you think you're kidding? who do you think you are, some kind of special super human? people aren't stupid. you're isolating yourself and being stubborn and a bit unrealistic with all this avoidant crap. also with the anxious crap. just get real and get honest already. i know it's because you're scared.... and that's obvious. you think people don't see it? you think they don't already see the cracks? admit it and welcome yourself to the beauty of humanity. there are people waiting to welcome you! 😍😂😘😘😘😘 that's all love, i promise. been there done that. Like the kick ass approach Juniper - part of the fear is fear of rejection when you do show up real - it happened repeatedly with my mother, my ex partner basically evaporated when I was honest with him about how I feel - it took huge guts to even be real with him after years and years of acceptance on my part for his needs and little for my own. I know this is what I need to do - and to kick the excuses - as a typical avoidant I am over scheduled constantly - too much work, too many kids, too many projects, trips etc etc but this is really really important. I have always felt isolated and it's time to change that. In fact over the years I have become better and vulnerability but another leap to come now. Have you heard of Imposter Syndrome - this is me personified - well qualified and successful but feel like a total failure, youch - life's too short. you got it, you're right- life's too short! but, it's also way to effin' long to go on like that. yes you've been betrayed by UNTRUSTWORTHY PEOPLE. we all have. we can recognize trustworthy people better now- those who have shown consistency over time deserve a little trust. just do this please. open up to someone who has been consistent with you and let us know how it goes. if you get hurt it won't kill you, look what you've survived already. come on. i think you sound like a great woman. yes, i am familiar with imposter syndrome. lol! big lie! |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2018 14:05:52 GMT
and remember ocarinaanyone who can "hurt " or "betray" you puts their pants on one leg at a time just like you, and probably with not near as good of balance as you 😂 |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2018 12:54:49 GMT
@ ocarina, to throw some avoidant tough love and humor in here.... time to come out of the pain closet, who do you think you're kidding? who do you think you are, some kind of special super human? people aren't stupid. you're isolating yourself and being stubborn and a bit unrealistic with all this avoidant crap. also with the anxious crap. just get real and get honest already. i know it's because you're scared.... and that's obvious. you think people don't see it? you think they don't already see the cracks? admit it and welcome yourself to the beauty of humanity. there are people waiting to welcome you! 😍😂😘😘😘😘 that's all love, i promise. been there done that. Like the kick ass approach Juniper - part of the fear is fear of rejection when you do show up real - it happened repeatedly with my mother, my ex partner basically evaporated when I was honest with him about how I feel - it took huge guts to even be real with him after years and years of acceptance on my part for his needs and little for my own. I know this is what I need to do - and to kick the excuses - as a typical avoidant I am over scheduled constantly - too much work, too many kids, too many projects, trips etc etc but this is really really important. I have always felt isolated and it's time to change that. In fact over the years I have become better and vulnerability but another leap to come now. Have you heard of Imposter Syndrome - this is me personified - well qualified and successful but feel like a total failure, youch - life's too short. , calling me out for a blunt perspective that urges personal responsibility is odd coming from you. you recently made huge changes after this post. i have tagged you in 4 newbie posts where deep gratitude was expressed. odd, indeed. |
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