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Post by ceder3 on Jun 24, 2018 15:53:03 GMT
As an INTP and AP my reflexes are to explain. In detail preferably. But are there any point to it? We have talked so many times about what I feel and her constant reply is that we have already talked about this, why bring it up again. So does she benefit from an explanation, or is it a waste of energy?
Maybe a “I quit” is sufficient?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2018 16:01:52 GMT
"we have already talked about this, there is no point in bringing it up again. I would like to end our involvement, and i wish us both the best."
explaining is rarely about helping the other person. it seems most often to be attached to an agenda or hope that the explanation will inspire a different outcome.
truly accepting the limitations of a situation with a person who clearly cannot meet your needs often leads to sober silence and moving on, painful as it may be.
if you truly accept the limitations as they are, silence and grieving is the way to go.
just my opinion drawn from my own experience.
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Post by kelvain on Jun 25, 2018 3:36:44 GMT
My ex DA said the same thing. She ended it a few weeks later. As an AP in the relationship I was crushed. But only at first. I came to realise how much better off I was and and am without her. Maybe I'm just one of the lucky people on these boards? Now when I think about how things were with her and can clearly see things for what they actually were, it makes me want to vomit in my mouth. I am so much happier these days! Just wanted to share my experience.
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