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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 2:49:39 GMT
easy does it, with all things.
i don't buy into a lot of societal customs that wring people out.
pretty much all the big events that people complain about but do anyway, i don't complain about because i don't do them.
holidays, i ignore them but my kids and i have our own special traditions we like more. we just don't get into the cultural (USA) hubub, for anything.
Celebrations of my nearest and dearest, i can do. but in a relaxed mindset, as i still flow at my level.
if the preparation and aftermath outweigh the event itself, it's rare for me to attend.
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Post by goldilocks on Jul 2, 2018 5:37:51 GMT
Most cultures could rethink social customs, which came into existence when people lived in the same village for several generations and everyone was nearby. Our lifestyles changed. Then they got highjacked by commerce and now they no longer fit the original purpose.
In the past, weddings were a place for young people of the same religion and social class to meet a spouse of their own. Without bars, hobby clubs and internet dating it is really useful to be invited by a cousin and meet his work colleague who might be a suitable husband for you. And you would love to dress up and look your best.
People married young and lacked a basic inventory, so gifts were very welcome. There was often a blend of status display and charity.
Nearest and dearest would be a nice standard for weddings, graduations, christmas, easter and birthdays. An exception would be adding a lonely person to your christmas party.
I wish we had alternnative traditions for not so close ones at weddings. Like maybe having a nice lunch with your colleagues and for all of them to chip in towards a gift card. Or for aunts and uncles to invite the new wedded couple for a dinner. If I had a nephew I would love to spend a few hours getting to know his wife but would have no interest in meeting her friends, so why not go for something intimate?
If you want to introduce single friends and relatives, a BBQ or dinner party is much more effective and enjoyable.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 13:23:34 GMT
well i mean if these things were originally a place to meet potential mates, that's obviously no place for an avoidant 😂😂😂
just following my instincts, people. 😆
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