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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2018 20:20:17 GMT
you mean manipulate him somehow to make him do what you want?
instead of waiting to see if his actions match his words?
no.
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Post by tnr9 on Jul 13, 2018 20:25:28 GMT
So I have a dismissive avoidant close friend and we've been getting along quite well, he continues to give me compliments, tell me I'm the best, etc. He initiates most texting and calling on the phone but I'm the one who always initiates seeing each other. Last time I saw him I said can we hang out at least every 2 weeks and he said oh we can do more than that but does nothing to follow it up.... he goes out to bars and stuff with his friends all the time but I don't drink. Is there anyway without pressing his buttons to get him to actually initiate meeting up? I would clarfy what he means when he says you can do more than that. That sounds very open ended. Do you have an interest in him and are hoping the two of you will progress? |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2018 22:10:13 GMT
I have no intention whatsoever to manipulate someone I'm very close to and care about. Besides being a major violation doing so as well in the long run would completely hinder our growth and communication. I'm asking if I can communicate something without sounding critical. If your advice is to wait and see I appreciate that advice howeverI'm also looking for other options that make me seem a little bit more proactive. Yes, I'm hoping to get closer. No relationship goals as of now. i am an advocate of just speaking sincerely, authentically. it requires some vulnerability and risk, but it honors your needs. |
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