Post by nenivokan on Feb 2, 2017 21:46:34 GMT
Hi guys! I am a new (female) member looking forward to read all of your posts. And I have a question about Jeb's book which I am considering buying.
I have a split between being anxious preoccupied and fearful avoidant (it comes up in tests, too). I am generally anxious preoccupied with friends and family, but I am fearful avoidant with men and potential partners. I attract truly horribly avoidant dismissives and I realize now that they mirror my inability to attend to myself and my needs and feelings. Changing this pattern has to start at home.
Do you think Jeb's book on Avoidant Dismissives may be helpful for me in changing my behaviours and patterns?
I already have extensive knowledge of attachment theory, so I don't need the theory per se, but I do need real life coping strategies and similar types of insights, both on my own pattern (fearful avoidant) and theirs (avoidant dismissive). I need to change because it's not working for me, and I wonder if you'd think Jeb's book is the right one for me starting this process.
Thank you!
I have a split between being anxious preoccupied and fearful avoidant (it comes up in tests, too). I am generally anxious preoccupied with friends and family, but I am fearful avoidant with men and potential partners. I attract truly horribly avoidant dismissives and I realize now that they mirror my inability to attend to myself and my needs and feelings. Changing this pattern has to start at home.
Do you think Jeb's book on Avoidant Dismissives may be helpful for me in changing my behaviours and patterns?
I already have extensive knowledge of attachment theory, so I don't need the theory per se, but I do need real life coping strategies and similar types of insights, both on my own pattern (fearful avoidant) and theirs (avoidant dismissive). I need to change because it's not working for me, and I wonder if you'd think Jeb's book is the right one for me starting this process.
Thank you!
