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Post by epicgum on Aug 17, 2018 21:35:22 GMT
Just curious where other people are in life!
I read a little bit about this stuff when I was 26, but mostly forgot/ignored it. :/ Really started to understand (?) it and get into it this year when I'm 28.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2018 1:20:05 GMT
late 40's- two years ago i discovered it.
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Post by cspragu on Aug 18, 2018 2:06:05 GMT
November of 2017. I was 32.
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Post by leavethelighton on Aug 18, 2018 20:30:40 GMT
Read it around 36 or 37. Oh how I wish I'd read it in my 20s!!! I'm 39 now.
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Post by goldilocks on Aug 19, 2018 6:58:13 GMT
Took my first test at 20 or so when studying psychology. At the time it did not seem like something that could be changed but after getting into a practice of daily meditation and building intrapersonal skill in a structured way I noticed I had secure result in my late twenties. Last year, I realised I still had some patterns that I was not happy about and have been working on succesfully.
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Post by epicgum on Aug 19, 2018 16:33:52 GMT
Took my first test at 20 or so when studying psychology. At the time it did not seem like something that could be changed but after getting into a practice of daily meditation and building intrapersonal skill in a structured way I noticed I had secure result in my late twenties. Last year, I realised I still had some patterns that I was not happy about and have been working on succesfully. Good for you! What sort of things did you do to build intrapersonal skill? (I just started with transcendental meditation) |
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Post by tnr9 on Aug 19, 2018 16:52:48 GMT
Gosh..I don't know....I was in therapy and my therapist recommended to me a book about relationship addiction. I don't recall we discussed AP, DA or FA at all until I was in a relationship with a malignant Narc...then she said I was a love addict and he was a love avoidant. I stumbled upon attachment theory about 3 or so years ago when I was trying to understand B.
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Post by goldilocks on Aug 19, 2018 17:51:55 GMT
Took my first test at 20 or so when studying psychology. At the time it did not seem like something that could be changed but after getting into a practice of daily meditation and building intrapersonal skill in a structured way I noticed I had secure result in my late twenties. Last year, I realised I still had some patterns that I was not happy about and have been working on succesfully. Good for you! What sort of things did you do to build intrapersonal skill? (I just started with transcendental meditation) Several kinds of meditation and spiritual practice, keeping a gratitude journal, practicing rationality in my thinking and distinguishing between different emotions. |
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Post by alpenglow on Aug 31, 2018 13:00:24 GMT
I discovered attachment theory about 4 years ago, when I was 33 years old.
Wish I had discovered it sooner...even though I was already close to it in my early 20's when I read up on codependency.
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Post by epicgum on Aug 31, 2018 14:21:00 GMT
I discovered attachment theory about 4 years ago, when I was 33 years old. Wish I had discovered it sooner...even though I was already close to it in my early 20's when I read up on codependency. That's funny, I had a brief encounter with the idea of codependency in my early 20s aw well after a pretty tumultuous relationship. Unfortunately I brushed it off and didn't delve too deeply into it. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 14:22:18 GMT
I discovered attachment theory about 4 years ago, when I was 33 years old. Wish I had discovered it sooner...even though I was already close to it in my early 20's when I read up on codependency. That's funny, I had a brief encounter with the idea of codependency in my early 20s aw well after a pretty tumultuous relationship. Unfortunately I brushed it off and didn't delve too deeply into it. that's when i began learning about codependency too! must be the age of awakening. that's also when i got sober, thank goodness. p |
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Post by alpenglow on Aug 31, 2018 16:58:18 GMT
Really funny to hear that it was the same for the two of you!
The only difference is that I read up on it at the beginning of my 7 year long relationship with my ex-wife (secure). I became extremely anxious in the early stages, and calmed down further into the relationship.
Also wish that I had delved more deeply into it at the time! Was in my mid-20's btw, not early 20's....anyway.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 17:02:33 GMT
Really funny to hear that it was the same for the two of you! The only difference is that I read up on it at the beginning of my 7 year long relationship with my ex-wife (secure). I became extremely anxious in the early stages, and calmed down further into the relationship. Also wish that I had delved more deeply into it at the time! Was in my mid-20's btw, not early 20's....anyway. learning about codependency went along with sobriety and 12 step work for me, and i applied what i learned in my marriage in mid twenties, as the adult child of an alcoholic and a really mean mother i definitely had unhealthy beliefs and perceptions about marriage and relationships. I wish i had access to attachment theory at that time but the only stuff i ran across was codependency and addiction recovery stuff. That segued into learning about Jungian psychology, symbols, archetypes, and that cool stuff also tho. it's been a long journey just hopping from one rock to the other to get across the river!!! so glad to know about attachment theory now!! |
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Post by alpenglow on Aug 31, 2018 17:17:21 GMT
Makes sense that you learned about codependency through the 12 step program. I was also biefly active in Al Anon a few years ago, but I never struggled with alcohol myself. I was however an adult child of an alcoholic dad.
Very interesting journey you had! Whatever knowledge we acquire along the way is worth it.
Since I recently discovered that I probably have cPTSD, this is what I'm mostly into for the time being...fascinating subject as well! It takes attachment theory into account of course.
I find it to be an even more integrative framework, for those who suffered from a traumatic childhood.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 17:28:07 GMT
Makes sense that you learned about codependency through the 12 step program. I was also biefly active in Al Anon a few years ago, but I never struggled with alcohol myself. I was however an adult child of an alcoholic dad. Very interesting journey you had! Whatever knowledge we acquire along the way is worth it. Since I recently discovered that I probably have cPTSD, this is what I'm mostly into for the time being...fascinating subject as well! It takes attachment theory into account of course. I find it to be an even more integrative framework, for those who suffered from a traumatic childhood. i was first diagnosed with cPTSD in my early twenties also- and shortly after, severe PTSD from violent trauma. doing inner child work over the years has been phenomenal. |
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