Post by goldilocks on Aug 28, 2018 4:35:29 GMT
Hi Annabelle,
Welcome to the boards! I'm a Secure/DA woman.
When we first started dating things were incredible and he was really into it. But he would only want to get together once every 2 weeks. This kept going on and I brought up a couple times. I need to see someone I’m dating at least once a week to keep my interest and feel good. So after about 2 months I mentioned that I didn’t think we were a good fit since he’s still penciling me in once in a blue moon and which was sufficient for his dating needs but not mine. He just said that I was a really amazing person and it was great getting to know me. So things ended and we did not talk.
Then after a month he started texting me every day for a week and then eventually asked me to hang out. So I did and we had a blast but then the next time he wanted to hang out was 2 weeks after. I was sooo livid. I said I was confused what his intentions were since the reason it didn’t work out last time was bc the frequency of us hanging out. He said he wants to just let things happen naturally but I said I could only do that if we see each other once a week. After a lot of difficulty getting him to agree he finally did.
Sounds like this is still the case and the two of you are good people but not good together!
You had and still have incompatible needs.
Neither of you are happy to adjust to the other persons needs.