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Post by lilyg on Sept 8, 2018 13:43:48 GMT
lilyg, thank you, i felt so much better after talking about it, and i spent some time with one of my wise women friends yesterday so that was great. and, i hope you can share your monthly distress with your partner. I know that men don't know reallyvwhat rod i about this, but it's just a matter of sharing our reality and asking for a little tlc, even just some kind words and the recognition that we are having a hard time can be helpful. for me, it's more about being genuine and gentle to myself by not hiding something big from those closest to me. i'm happy to be a woman, and this goes with it but it's part of a life-creating cycle. ♥️ it's just the real deal, and it's sometimes difficult. nothing to be ashamed of. You're a very gentle woman, so it shows 🙂 I will! I guess it's the way my mother educated me. Maybe it's my culture! Very old-fashioned in that respect. |
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Post by goldilocks on Sept 13, 2018 20:34:49 GMT
I had pretty bad PMS this month which by murphy's law coincided with me being in the middle of nowhere with my love interest and a bunch of friends. I felt embarrassed to even tell people I'm having that time of the month, but I needed supplies and have no license :-( My love interest was sweet; he bought me my necessisities, helped me cook and he was kind.
To me it is a good sign. ♥️
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2018 21:23:34 GMT
I had pretty bad PMS this month which by murphy's law coincided with me being in the middle of nowhere with my love interest and a bunch of friends. I felt embarrassed to even tell people I'm having that time of the month, but I needed supplies and have no license :-( My love interest was sweet; he bought me my necessisities, helped me cook and he was kind. To me it is a good sign. ♥️ a very good sign indeed!!! 🌸 |
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Post by tnr9 on Sept 16, 2018 16:12:12 GMT
juniper...Hugs! PMS symptoms are horrible for me as well..and now that I am in peri menopause...I am having crazy ones...months of feeling like I should get a period with nothing..followed by one month where my period will last 3 weeks. It is so disconcerting to not know when it will happen but still have the feelings that would come with it. I think you are so brave to face your feelings head on..to give them space even when they are not pleasant to experience. You are a powerful example on this board of someone who is transforming her life. I wish you well.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2018 16:16:59 GMT
juniper...Hugs! PMS symptoms are horrible for me as well..and now that I am in peri menopause...I am having crazy ones...months of feeling like I should get a period with nothing..followed by one month where my period will last 3 weeks. It is so disconcerting to not know when it will happen but still have the feelings that would come with it. I think you are so brave to face your feelings head on..to give them space even when they are not pleasant to experience. You are a powerful example on this board of someone who is transforming her life. I wish you well. thank you tnr9!! it was such a big deal to admit my feelings and cry out for help to my partner. we talked about it last night, i had to thank him for how he helped me. to him it was no big deal, meaning, he understood why i was hurting so bad and was happy to help soothe me. he didn't judge me at all, or think i was silly. i just have never felt able to lean on someone so unabashedly like that. it was very helpful and healing to me!! |
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Post by tnr9 on Sept 16, 2018 16:23:47 GMT
juniper ...Hugs! PMS symptoms are horrible for me as well..and now that I am in peri menopause...I am having crazy ones...months of feeling like I should get a period with nothing..followed by one month where my period will last 3 weeks. It is so disconcerting to not know when it will happen but still have the feelings that would come with it. I think you are so brave to face your feelings head on..to give them space even when they are not pleasant to experience. You are a powerful example on this board of someone who is transforming her life. I wish you well. thank you tnr9 !! it was such a big deal to admit my feelings and cry out for help to my partner. we talked about it last night, i had to thank him for how he helped me. to him it was no big deal, meaning, he understood why i was hurting so bad and was happy to help soothe me. he didn't judge me at all, or think i was silly. i just have never felt able to lean on someone so unabashedly like that. it was very helpful and healing to me!! That is fantastic juniper! In my class, we learned that experiencing positive outcomes did more to transform us out of insecure states then any book or podcast. I am so happy to read your partner was so accepting and willing to provide that soothing you needed at that time.💕😀 |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2018 16:31:07 GMT
thank you tnr9 !! it was such a big deal to admit my feelings and cry out for help to my partner. we talked about it last night, i had to thank him for how he helped me. to him it was no big deal, meaning, he understood why i was hurting so bad and was happy to help soothe me. he didn't judge me at all, or think i was silly. i just have never felt able to lean on someone so unabashedly like that. it was very helpful and healing to me!! That is fantastic juniper! In my class, we learned that experiencing positive outcomes did more to transform us out of insecure states then any book or podcast. I am so happy to read your partner was so accepting and willing to provide that soothing you needed at that time.💕😀 i agree about the positive outcomes being most powerful. the literature is helpful to validate and understand myself. but it's the PRACTICE of actually opening up, being my true self in the moment, and receiving love and understanding back, that has transformed me. so in that way, it's truly been a joint effort- my need, his response... his need, my response.... it's truly the development of actual interdependence that heals this stuff and it takes two. you can't get it out of a book. but the book helps me understand how to go about it!  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2018 19:09:57 GMT
thank you anne12! i have long appreciated the seasons of my cycle, and first started learning of the real and symbolic changes and phases when i was in my twenties. but i've always been cut off from the support of other women, or of a partner. so it's a huge shift for me to share my real womanly cycle with him, in a way that asks for support and understanding. before, it was just something i handled- the difficult parts- and couldn't be vulnerable enough to admit i was struggling. with the extra pressures and grief in my life, it was so necessary and so appropriate for me to reach out and tell him i needed some comfort emotionally. i'm so glad i did. my first automatic way of coping was to deactivate and withdraw, and it was hard to pick another path that morning. Speaking to him about it later, it was as if we had been sharing on that level for a long time. that's what i'm finding though- when i make a shift internally. things flow naturally as if he was waiting for me to arrive. i'm sure it goes both ways because we are both settling in to a new and healthier dynamic over time. i'm going to share this thread and the moon post with my girls, they will love/hate it lol. we talk period stuff but i like the way the moon model represents it. |
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