Post by anne12 on Nov 8, 2021 9:42:36 GMT
Healing of the masculine
You will need 4 chairs for healing the masculine.
They should stand in a square a chair on each side with the front of the chair facing the center.
Place yourself in one of the chairs
Then invite your dad to sit on the chair on the left side of you.
If you are affraid of your dad, use competent protectors. If your dad is weak, then give him some resources who can stand beside hi. and who can support him.
Look at your dad and tell him about your hurts, your dissapointments, tell him about the bad things that you have experiended that he has done, do you want to cry infront of him, do you want to yell, do you want to get angry, do you want to kick him. You are allowed to tell him everything when he is sitting on the chair on your left side of you. What do you notise in your body ?
Then put your dad on the chair on the right side of yourself
Look at your dad, sence him ect.
Then tell him, feel all the good things that you appericiate about him, the good things you have experienced together, the good things he has tought you. What do you notise in your body ? What do you want to do - do you want to give kind eyes, a hug, hold his hand ect. ?
The ask him to leave the room
Remove the chair on your left side and remove the chair on your right side.
Then place yourself on the opposite chair infront of you
Then “look at yourself” and tell yourself/the woman - the man infront of you what you are needing to hear from your own inner masculine ect.
Then switch back to the other chair. Invite the masculine to stand beside you or behind you and let the masculine put supportive hands on your shoulders or on your back or on the outside of your arms. Feel into the felt sensation. Then let the masculine blend into your body. Notise where on your body the masculine enters your body.
Notise how do you feel now (more strong, empowered, with a straigt back ect ?)
You can contact your inner masculine when ever you need it
Post by anne12 on Dec 6, 2021 19:10:10 GMT
Healing the feminine
Healing of the feminine
You will need 4 chairs for healing the feminine
They should stand in a square a chair on each side with the front of the chair facing the center.
Place yourself in one of the chairs
Then invite your mother to sit on the chair on the left side of you.
If you are affraid of your mother, use competent protectors. If your mother is weak, then give her some resources who can stand beside her and who can support her.
Look at your mother and tell her about your hurts, your dissapointments, tell her about the bad things that you have experiended that she has done, do you want to cry infront of her, do you want to yell, do you want to get angry, do you want to kick her.
Then put your mother on the chair to the right side of you.
Then tell her all the good things that you appericiate about her, the good things you have experienced together with her, the good things she has tought you. What do you notise in your body ? What do you want to do - do you want to give kind eyes, a hug, hold her hand ect. ?
Then thank her and ask her to leave the room
Remove the chair on your left side and remove the chair on your right side.
Then place yourself on the opposite chair infront of you
Then “look at yourself” and tell yourself/the woman that you are now / the man that you are now who is sitting infront of you, what you are needing to hear from your own inner feminine ect.
Then switch back to the other chair. Invite the feminine to stand beside you or behind you and let the feminine put supportive hands on your shoulders or on your back or on the outside of your arms. Feel into the felt sensation. Feel the love, the tenderness and the nurishment.
Then let the feminine blend into your body. Notise where on your body the feminine enters your body.
Notise how do you feel now (more soft, more loving, has your heart opend, ect.)
You can contact your inner feminine when ever you need
Post by anne12 on Jan 1, 2022 15:11:47 GMT
Wilhelm Reich, an Austrian psychoanalyst and Doctor of Medicine was the first to mention 'de-armouring' in the 1900`s. He worked with the physical protection shields that people’s systems build within their bodies for protection and survival. What we call armour. He was the first to really be interested in what happened when sexual energy / life force energy was suppressed
due to fight and flight responses during stress, chock and traumatic experience, tension or ‘armour’ is created in the body. In nature we see animals shaking off these types of shock but us humans we hold on to it due to our social connection nervous system.
When the ventral vagus and social engagement switches off due to a sense of threat or danger, it triggers the nervous system to function on the unsafe side in ‘survival mode’ (fight/flight or freeze). This can lead to dysfunction of the nervous system and inability to relax and be the starting point of many symptoms and diseases. This is why de-armouring is in the category of preventative health. The very root to optimal health.
De-armouring - The Pleasure Temple Method is a body-oriented therapy to transform and clear out the energetic armour and holding patterns we store in our bodies. Armour is created over time by shock, stress, thought-patterns, social programming, repressed emotion and trauma. Even though armour desensitise our experience of life, it is there for a reason. It is developed in the energy body to protect us and to survive.
With de-armouring you can go more directly to resolving the core physical root in a faster way than what most talking therapies can do. Therefore it also needs to be handled and approached with great care, awareness and embodiment.
With the Pleasure Temple de-armouring method and arts we can clear away the physical ‘shield’ when the physical, mental and emotional aspect of our being is ready. This release is the de-armouring process. With the release of these blockages, our bodies' nervous system can return to the important rest and digest state and gain a deeper capacity to feel pleasure, joy and for our life force to run more freely. De-armouring can be both external and internal, both physical, psychological and emotional.
If we don't clear out yhe armour, the side effect of living in constant fear and self-protection can then trigger parasympathetic dorsal vagal shutdown. People feel numb, lethargic and fatigued and never able to fully be in rest and digest mode. So for a lot of people the noticing and feeling part of the brain (which is aware of impulses within the body, as well as the working mind’s thought process) is switched off. This means that conscious decisions can’t be made. The person may feel stuck or ‘frozen’ in some way. This can affect a lot of areas in people's lives and in selected areas of the body where muscular holding patterns occur as physical defence mechanisms—due to the nervous system’s need to shut off and protect from feeling chronic physical or emotional pain.
This can manifest differently in different people. In the exterior you might feel like repeating patterns or being stuck not able to move forward. Physically when under psychological stress, the psoas muscle, as a core muscle, informs other muscles to be in constant readiness for fight or flight. Tension arises in different parts of the body. For a lot of women it sits in the pelvic area, in the jaw due to clenching, pain around the diaphragm due to contraction from holding the breath, stiff trapezius muscles in the neck and shoulders, around the eyes causing tension headaches and contraction in the throat.
The Pleasure Temple Dearmoring arts is effective to:
Reduce anxiety, panic attacks or fight/flight mode
Regulating and rewiring of the autonomic nervous system
Enhance embodiment and groundedness
Positively impact on depression, unhappiness, and lack of motivation
Heal past abuse, traumas and addictions by working through belief systems and neuroplasticity
Reduce stress, tension, and "unexplainable" physical symptoms
Removing shame and guilt, loss of interest in sex, inability to experience orgasm, and pain during intercourse
Allow the client to learn to fully let go or experience joy and lifeforce flow
Boost body confidence, self-esteem, and trust
Address Vaginismus (involuntary vaginal contractions/closing of the vagina before sex)
Reduce PMS and period pain + normalises the menstrual cycle
Address other sexual, relational, physical dysfunctions
Post by anne12 on Feb 5, 2022 12:40:06 GMT
You may not have thought much about it - or been so aware of it - but you are actually teaching a man how to be loved, through your boundaries.
And it's actually quite smart both for you and for him. For you, because you will be satisfied and have your needs met, and for him, because he will figure out how to best solve the task.
Yes, most men with a well-developed masculine side would actually like to be asked a task and not least be able to solve it. They do not mind putting on work gloves. On the contrary, they feel best about having earned a reward and not just getting it served. For them, it is not troublesome (read: YOU are not troublesome because you express your needs).
For a man who is in his feminine side/energy, on the other hand, it will seem awkward if he has to make an effort to listen to you and your needs. But he's not the one to look for either.
What are some typical signs of a feminine man?
He is reticent, unobtrusive, dull, moody, self-absorbed and therefore chooses the easiest solution and wants things his way.
So if, for example, you express your needs to that type of man, it will not be recieved Well.
You're too much work for him and he can not meet your needs.
So this is a good test, this one, that makes the wrong men back off.
You have to show who you are
- you teach a man how to be loved, through your boundaries. Because it is not good enough for you to be loved, if only because you are sweet, compliant, pleaser-like, self-effacing and preoccupied with him, right?
And a masculine man does not want these qualities either.
He dares to get to know you with everything you contain.
If he dates a representative and polished version of you who is not really YOU, he will not be able to get to know you.
And what is there to fall in love with?
You have to show a man who you are to give him the opportunity to fall in love with you.
But what does it look like, that of setting boundaries? It's not as hard as it sounds. Here is a very typical example:
Get him to take care of your needs
You are on a date with a man who talks a lot and for a long time about himself.
You've probably tried it once or twice.
Maybe you let him talk to be sweet and polite, and since the date is over, he has been sitting on 85% of the conversation time.
It may have been nice enough for him, because he has had his heart lifted. but he has no idea that in all that time he has not gotten to know you and therefore may not be motivated to see you again.
And you have a feeling that you have neither been heard nor seen.
This scenario can be avoided, but it is up to you.
You simply have to interrupt him and start talking about yourself.
A woman would think it was rude, but not a man.
He WANTS to get to know you, because he has turned up for a date.
He's just nervous and is going to sabotage the date.
But you know better.
You know it's important that he gets to know you if he's to connect with you. And you with him.
Similar situation in a relationship scenario:
You need to talk because you connect with your partner by having him listen to you.
If, on the other hand, you do not feel you can express yourself freely to him, you become insecure and it creates stress hormones in your system.
But you say to him: “I just need to tell you about something that has bothered me a little at my work the last few days. And I do not want you to solve it. You just have to listen. Is it okay with you?"
And then he says (hopefully) yes.
The subject is not dangerous either, as it is not about him. So you are allowed to express yourself in a safe space where he listens and is present, which will be good for your stress level and hormonal system, and he is relieved of the pressure of having to solve a problem.
It's a win-win for both of you.
But he must have clear instructions.
We train our partner all the time by saying what we want and do not want and that is good.
You will be satisfied because you get your needs met in the relationship, and he will be satisfied because he can EXACTLY meet your needs - which meets his needs.
How? Because the man's primary desire is to make you happy, and your primary job is to receive. But you have to tell him what you want.
This is win-win.
An attatchment love coach
Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2022 20:20:42 GMT
Be a lady they said. Your skirt is too short. Your shirt is too low. Your pants are too tight. Don’t show so much skin. Don’t show your thighs. Don’t show your breasts. Don’t show your midriff. Don’t show your cleavage. Don’t show your underwear. Don’t show your shoulders. Cover up. Leave something to the imagination. Dress modestly. Don’t be a temptress. Men can’t control themselves.
Men have needs. You look frumpy. Loosen up. Show some skin. Look sexy. Look hot. Don’t be so provocative. You’re asking for it. Wear black. Wear heels. You’re too dressed up. You’re too dressed down. Don’t wear those sweatpants; you look like you’ve let yourself go.
Be a lady they said. Don’t be too fat. Don’t be too thin. Don’t be too large. Don’t be too small. Eat up. Slim down. Stop eating so much. Don’t eat too fast. Order a salad. Don’t eat carbs. Skip dessert. You need to lose weight. Fit into that dress. Go on a diet. Watch what you eat. Eat celery. Chew gum. Drink lots of water. You have to fit into those jeans. God, you look like a skeleton. Why don’t you just eat? You look emaciated. You look sick. Eat a burger. Men like women with some meat on their bones. Be small. Be light. Be little. Be petite. Be feminine. Be a size zero. Be a double zero. Be nothing. Be less than nothing.
Be a lady they said. Remove your body hair. Shave your legs. Shave your armpits. Shave your bikini line. Wax your face. Wax your arms. Wax your eyebrows. Get rid of your mustache. Bleach this. Bleach that. Lighten your skin. Tan your skin. Eradicate your scars. Cover your stretch marks. Tighten your abs. Plump your lips. Botox your wrinkles. Lift your face. Tuck your tummy. Thin your thighs. Tone your calves. Perk up your boobs. Look natural. Be yourself. Be genuine. Be confident. You’re trying too hard. You look overdone. Men don’t like girls who try too hard.
Be a lady they said. Wear makeup. Prime your face. Conceal your blemishes. Contour your nose. Highlight your cheekbones. Line your lids. Fill in your brows. Lengthen your lashes. Color your lips. Powder, blush, bronze, highlight. Your hair is too short. Your hair is too long. Your ends are split. Highlight your hair. Your roots are showing. Dye your hair. Not blue, that looks unnatural. You’re going grey. You look so old. Look young. Look youthful. Look ageless. Don’t get old. Women don’t get old. Old is ugly. Men don’t like ugly.
Be a lady they said. Save yourself. Be pure. Be virginal. Don’t talk about sex. Don’t flirt. Don’t be a skank. Don’t be a whore. Don’t sleep around. Don’t lose your dignity. Don’t have sex with too many men. Don’t give yourself away. Men don’t like sluts. Don’t be a prude. Don’t be so up tight. Have a little fun. Smile more. Pleasure men. Be experienced. Be sexual. Be innocent. Be dirty. Be virginal. Be sexy. Be the cool girl. Don’t be like the other girls.
Be a lady they said. Don’t talk too loud. Don’t talk too much. Don’t take up space. Don’t sit like that. Don’t stand like that. Don’t be intimidating. Why are you so miserable? Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be so bossy. Don’t be assertive. Don’t overact. Don’t be so emotional. Don’t cry. Don’t yell. Don’t swear. Be passive. Be obedient. Endure the pain. Be pleasing. Don’t complain. Let him down easy. Boost his ego. Make him fall for you. Men want what they can’t have. Don’t give yourself away. Make him work for it. Men love the chase. Fold his clothes. Cook his dinner. Keep him happy. That’s a woman’s job. You’ll make a good wife some day. Take his last name. You hyphenated your name? Crazy feminist. Give him children. You don’t want children? You will some day. You’ll change your mind.
Be a lady they said. Don’t get raped. Protect yourself. Don’t drink too much. Don’t walk alone. Don’t go out too late. Don’t dress like that. Don’t show too much. Don’t get drunk. Don’t leave your drink. Have a buddy. Walk where it is well lit. Stay in the safe neighborhoods. Tell someone where you’re going. Bring pepper spray. Buy a rape whistle. Hold your keys like a weapon. Take a self-defense course. Check your trunk. Lock your doors. Don’t go out alone. Don’t make eye contact. Don’t bat your eyelashes. Don’t look easy. Don’t attract attention. Don’t work late. Don’t crack dirty jokes. Don’t smile at strangers. Don’t go out at night. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t say yes. Don’t say no.
Just “be a lady” they said.
Yeah I've been pretty steamed about this for a while and I live to do what I want as a lady, for sure. And we can do it with class.
Post by anne12 on Feb 15, 2022 19:21:42 GMT
The Wonder Down Under is a comprehensive guide to a miraculous and complex part of the body that too few of us (regardless of gender) are all that familiar with--the vagina. With wisdom, humor, and scientific aplomb, medical students and sex educators Nina Brochmann and Ellen Støkken Dahl take readers on a fascinating journey of female sexual organs and sexual health--from the clitoris to contraception to cervical cancer.
More than a user's manual, this book is demystification, and tribute to the vagina that we have been waiting for. The Wonder Down Under is filled with astonishing, important, and little-known information--relayed with both medical expertise and genuine empathy. Did you know, for instance, that female and male sex organs are merely variations on the same basic structure? Or that there's no such thing as a virginity test--because a broken hymen is not a meaningful indicator of whether or not someone's had sex?
Brochmann and Dahl have written a tour-de-force about the biology, anatomy, and reality of the female body, stopping along the way to explain how misinformation and silence about the vagina have been harmful to women over time. The Wonder Down Under makes crucial contributions to the discussion: the book was an instant bestseller that sold out in its native Norway in just three days. Since then it has been acquired by publishers in more than two dozen countries around the world.
The Wonder Down Under is a joyful and indispensable book that will educate readers of all kinds and equip a new generation to make informed choices about their sexual health and happiness. (less)
Post by anne12 on Mar 9, 2022 13:33:45 GMT
Pleasure evening with self touch
- not like you have to be super selfish
- but that you train yourself to refuel yourself with love!
The more you experience enjoyment, pleasure, joy and love - the more you can be who you really are and give it to those you want to give to.
Prepare an evening where you will have (self) pleasure/enjoyment 👑🌺🎁🎉🔥🌈🍹🛀 and (self) love❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 on the program
Have an undisturbed warm space, preferably decorated with flowers and cozy lighting, pillows and blankets.
Also enjoy some lovely scents, taste experiences (eg delicious chocolates, sweet fruit, and other of your favorite flavors), oil for the body and delicious music for a sensual mood.
Put a DO NOT DISTURB sign on your door….
A cozy place to be undisturbed
dim lighting and perhaps candlelight
decorated with flowers l
a place to lie down
blankets, pillows and warm temperature
Treats for your senses:
The sense of smell
- rose (the scent of love), lavender (encouraging, invigorating and soothing), pine needles (joy) - but only one of these at a time.
touch, you can do it on the outside of the clothes.
But more delicious if you're naked
If you are naked you can use some delicious oil e.g. Almond oil, thistle oil or coconut oil are super good for the skin
other of your beautiful favorite things
dimmed lighting and possibly candles
silence can sound beautiful
sweet, like dark 70-80% chocolate, and small pieces of your favorite fruit
others of your flavors - just in small chunks possibly salty e.g. peanuts
Working with the 5 sences and your sensual/erotic energy:
- using the combination of touch and the other senses
Line up the things, that you have prepared for this evening
Lie down, make yourself comftable
Breath in and out 3 times - with longer exhales
Then do a body scan and wiggle your toes ect.
Imagine that you are experiencing Everything for the very first time
Then taste something as it is for the very first time / your wine, peanuts, strawberries. You can feel the things you are eating with your lips before you taste it.
Then Look at you body (or your partners body) as if you are looking at the body for the very first time.
Touch yourself (or your partner) as it is the first time (you can use your hands or a feather) like if your are touching yourself for the first time. Keep touching yourself, your breasts, your sex, your stomac ect where ever it feels comftable
If you are with a partner, You can touch eachother in a sensuel Way or in a loving Way
Then find a sent and smell it, while you are still touching your body with your other hand
Then taste something while you are still touching yourself with the other hand
Then look at your body again as if you are looking at your body for the very first time while you are touching yourself with the other hand
Do Everything in slow motion
PLAY with sounds that comes out of your mouth.
You can give yourself compliments (or give your partner compliments) while you are still touching yourself e.g.: “You are worth loving”, “you deserve love” - say the works out loud and listen as if you hear them for the very first time
Caress your body and breath down into your sex and breath out and let the energy spread into your pelvic floor
Breath in and let the energy go up through your spine and on exhale down on the front of your body while still touching yourself
Then let your body be still and let your body integrate what you have been experiencing through this exercise
How did this feel for you ?
A lot of people dont know how to be sensual in their daily life.
Notise What are the sensations in your body now
If you feel some erotic energy you can use it as life energy in your daily life
Or you can use it to have sex with yourself or with your partner
Then say 3 things out loud that you are thankfull for 🙏
Then let yourself Ground to the surface you are lying on or to the surface you are sitting on
An se, attatcment, vita , love coach ❤️
Post by anne12 on Mar 11, 2022 7:29:15 GMT
Can you feel it?
Can you feel that your feminine being needs space - that there is space and a world between creator and creature that needs nourishment and care and enrichment now so that it can come alive and be lived
I notice that this beautyfull flower is opening - some days in full bloom now, but most of the time a little more gently.
There's way too much unrest out there yet that is affecting it.
It affects the flower in terms of whether it can stand fully open and peacefully integrated into its own energy. It's trained to keep its balance and that's ok. Things take time and a strong root network is not built in a day. It takes practice to stand open and unaffected in a new kind of energy. It takes time to let mildness know that it can stand Well without its defense, because it is strong enough in the gentle and pliable to be able to stand without its learned weapons.
The new is not something you can pick up in your surrounding field. It's something you have to learn within yourself. It's something you have to unlearn and then re-learn. You must learn to integrate even the smallest small means into your being, action and the observer - IN YOUR LIVED LIFE. Small tools that turn everything around and make you softer and more flexible. It is to give life to and water something in you that you can help to rise and become strong and viable. The things that was, must step aside a little, so that something new may become an extension of you.
Maybe your flower is lying down because it has been trampled on and stepped down by big boots every time it has risen just a little. But you see it now. You feel that it is calling to you and you know that it is only with a strong version of it that you can make it really good 🙏
Protect it and nurich it.
Not by putting up wire fences and shooting with sharp.
No, give it a voice and let it be heard. Tell from the heart. Tell us about what crushes it and what enriches it. Let it be all. Let it be what it needs to be, by listening and trusting in the value of everything. It knows how to bring itself back to life and release its armor layer by layer. Along with it, you will wake up and live the being that is the most natural part of you and in harmony with your soul and spirit 🌸
A heart worker ❤️
Post by anne12 on Mar 13, 2022 12:56:39 GMT
Why taking a trip with your girlfriends is good for your healthwww.southernliving.com/healthy-living/benefits-vacation-with-friendsbrill.com/view/journals/beh/153/9-11/article-p1053_3.xml
In 2016, researchers found researchers found evidence that hanging out with friends can increase production of oxytocin, the feel good cuddle hormone that our bodies make when we're happy. Science has shown that oxytocin can make people more trusting, more generous, and friendlier, all the things you look for in friends.
Conversely, according to the clever folks at Harvard, people who don't have strong friendships tend to be more depressed, have later-life cognitive decline, and, frighteningly enough, were more likely to die at a younger age. One study, which looked at the lives of 309,000 people, found that a lack of strong social ties increased the risk of premature death from all causes by 50%, which was about the same effect as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. A 2012 study found that the risk of dementia increased depending on how lonely people felt.
Post by anne12 on Apr 6, 2022 17:18:12 GMT
DO YOU (ALSO) FIND IT HARD TO FOCUS AT THE MOMENT?
I forgot a reflexology appointment yesterday. Otherwise I never do.
The other day there was a word I could not remember right there in the middle of a conversation. And now I can not remember what the word was either. I feel a bit like I'm walking around in a bubble.
There's even a name for it: Brain Fog.
For a brief moment, one may get nervous about whether something is completely wrong, but typically it is about hormones (menopause, teenagehood and pregnancy), sleep (or rather lack of the same), stress (just take the last few years for us all) and diet as the main causes. Because like all other parts of the body, our brain needs flow and fuel to function optimally.
It was Kathleen Baird-Murray, the beauty editor at Vogue UK, who first opened my eyes to Ancient + Braves MCT oil. Add a teaspoon to your coffee - it's focus on bottle, she said, letting the clarity of the brain be as natural a part of your beauty as the clarity of the skin. Since then, I found out that MCT is a solid ingredient in the daily lives of a wide range of successful personalities, from Halle Berry, Blake Lively and Miranda Kerr to Emma Stone and Huda Kattan, who, as she says, is' obsessed with True MCT Oil for my daily morning drinks. Helps with weight loss, memory and keeps me energized ’. Feed your brain like you feed your skin MCT oil is instant fuel for body and brain
Eat extra berries, pomegranate seeds, plums and dark green vegetables if you want to give your brain the best conditions.
Also, make sure that your intestinal system is in flow. It is your second brain and the whole premise for your body to function. Fermented foods, teas, probiotics and not least Manuka honey are my favorites.
And then I always resort to a few de-stressing rituals when I feel like now where I forget everything around me.
Often, brain fog can also be about us having too much to do.
These rituals are easy to follow.
Find a carefully selected essential oil, an original Japanese uka kenzan scalp brush and use acupressure at a very special point that promotes memory and clarity.
Just to name a few examples
A health coach, beauty expertwww.theguardian.com/society/2021/oct/10/menopause-brain-the-inability-to-think-clearly-is-not-all-in-your-mindjebkinnisonforum.com/post/16627/
Post by anne12 on Apr 7, 2022 2:54:55 GMT
did you know that MOST WOMEN don't nourish themselves for metabolic, hormonal, sexual, and emotional health?
in a sea of conflicting information, where even nutritionists can't seem to agree on what's 'right' ... whom should we believe? and can we really trust our intuition?
is plant-based really the better way? should women ever be intermittent-fasting? how justified is the war on fat, sugar, and carbs
what is REAL nourishment? And what does it mean to be a well-nourished woman?
An overidentification with prey and our desire to make up for the evils of the world can lead us to make health choices that aren't good for us.
An female SE practisioner