Question About Behaviours

My girlfriend broke up with me on Tuesday, who I believe to be avoidant. I was hoping you all could answer some behavior questions.

1. Her break up message originally stated that I deserve someone more stable, and who doesnt spend dates lamenting past issues. When I told her it was okay and I had no issues with her, she switched gears to she didnt feel that romantic spark, even though we had been seeing each other for over two months and talking for longer. She kept telling me i was dodging a bullet however and that shes not the great girl i think she is, which i found odd if her reason was simply no spark. She said it made it her get quiet, cold, and weird on our dates sometime. She has anxiety and an abusive ex so i never thought much of it. The idea that she only was that way around me, hurts me, but im inclined to not believe her on that. Is this sort of unclear break-up normal? I've heard it can be pre-emptive so you never break-up with them, or she knew i had large feelings for her and ran.

2. Physical contact. She had only one relationship which was with a mentally abusive guy for 4 years. I was her first date after. She was very distant physically and never initiated anything or gave signals so i took it slow due to her past. If we sat somewhere talking, she would sit a space away, and often slightly turn away from me. At my place on the couch, she would sit at the end, looking tight and guarded. First held hands and hugged on date 4, kissed her on the cheek 6 onward. Around then we discussed being closer and she said the reason nothing has happened is she doesnt know how to initiate it, so i said i would. She brought up again wanting to move slowly emotionally but we could still be physical and even have sex. I worried about the implications of that but knew she feared getting stuck in another abusive relationship so i tried not to dwell on it. Anyways  i went in for a kiss on our next date and got turned down because there was too many people around, but i had seen signs of her having a fear of public affection before so i said okay and we hugged and she left. Are these distancing tactics? I always thought body language doesnt lie, so a woman kinda turning away from you is usually a big sign but i got that a bit at the start of the relationship. I have no idea what to make of it and now that i got the no spark thing it makes me doubt. During the break up she mentioned i deserve someone who can kiss me after two months, though she told me it took two to kiss her ex so i never was concerned.

3. Labels. She told me early on she wants to move slowly cause of her ex and i said no problem. It came up a few times and i realized that she meant it more as in we might not be exclusive for a while which caused me some anxiety but she never went on another date while i was with her. She would say she feared getting emotionally attached to quick, not so much physical stuff. She was worried about getting trapped in a relationship she couldnt get out of. I thought that was odd as you can leave anytime you want, so i wondered if her ex pulled suicide guilt trips or something or she knew she gets attached and has a hard time leaving. Was this a way to keep us somewhat distant? She once got upset i bought a box of tea she liked for my kitchen because I "bought something for my house for her", but she didnt get upset when i made her baked goods when she was sick and bought allergy meds.

4. Compliments. She dodged them, deflected them or straight up ignored them.

When she broke up with me because she didnt see a romantic future with us due to a lack of spark despite months, I have felt confused and torn up. How could i have felt this insane chemistry then? If she wanted to be slow why was her whole problem about a spark then? She said shes sorry it took so long for her to realize it - not sure if thats the truth or not. Why was the first message about me just deserving someone not broken.
It hurts and i miss her and just want to understand.