How to prepare create your future relationship Apr 21, 2019 8:06:42 GMT via mobile
Post by anne12 on Apr 21, 2019 8:06:42 GMT
Some of these exercises, such as the Love Vision and Meet Your Future Partner may sound like only for singles. If you already have a partner, then you can make the Love Vision together with your partner - after you have made your own and know what it is that you basically dream about.
Meeting your dream partner is also relevant if you are in a relationship. There you have to see your partner clearly - if you and your partner are sure that you will be together for the next 7 years.
Use the exercise to cultivate the mood and feelings that you dream of are between the two of you!
Make a vision that will make you (almost) experience, the relationship that you dream of RIGHT NOW. This vision can contribute significantly to attracting a lover, the only one in your life! It will open you to love so you can be in the right place at the right time and do what it takes.
Immediately drop the list of how your partner should be!
Even if you get a partner with exactly the traits and qualities that are on your list, there will always be something that you have not thought of.
Because at the conscious level you can't get all the facets.
How to make your love vision:
Describe your vision as concrete and vivid as possible. Describe the vision so that you feel it, feel your enthusiasm and joy over the things that are in it
Describe it in present and positive formulations. What you want to get. Or already have and would like to keep on having
Describe the feelings, sensations, moods and experiences that you would like to have in love life, these are the ones that open you to love and get it attracted!
There are several love visions:
1) The love for yourself: How do you treat yourself, how do you show yourself love, what do you do to feel safe in your everyday life, do you fail yourself? Make loving steps towards yourself, take a small step every day. Make a self-love diary. Write 3-5 points each night about what you might have thought, said, done to pamper yourself. Read your vision from time to time.
2) Dating process vision. How does dating feels for you? Many are uncertain during this period. Write what moods, sensations, feelings that are in you. Recall these feelings when you date. "I feel comfortable in myself, we communicate daily, we see eachother a couple times a week. When I am with my date we are both interested in making it comfortable for each other, I feel calm in the body, I am curious and open."
3) Long term lovevision:
Livingsituation, kids, Work, families, friends ect.
Merge your values into the vision
Describe what and how it is in your relationship
Your way of being together
Activities and your sex life
Other relationships - family, friends, children
Housing -form-seperate, together, apartment, house, in the city, country 🏠 ect
Free time, travel,e vacations ect.
Read your vision at least every day - especially you need to focus on the emotions and moods. There may be a need - very easy even. Allow it to be there too.
If you've got some ambivalent attatchmentstyle IT is important to put elements in the vision that gives a calm nerveussystem. That IT is clear, that you are together with the right person. When visualising the dating phase, that you are calm inside and that you are able to live your daily life ect. and that you are able to stay calm even if your future partner texts with 2 Days in between.
If you have some desorganised attatchmentstyle that things between you evolves in a calm and slow way with no drama, that boundaries are respected, that you and your partner feels egual ect
If you've got some dismissive attatchmentstyle it is important to describe your lovevision with your feelings, needs ect. You can ask some of your friends to get inspired.
You can make a collage with pictures from magasines of things and experiences you want in your relationship.
Create your relationship now!
Turn off your phone ect. for ½ hour, where you are undisturbed for this activity
Find a paper and a pen - or your PC
Sit back and breathe deeply 3 times. Breathe slowly out every time!
Imagine that you have now met and are with the only one in your life. That you have the relationship exactly as you long to have (also allow any need / grief over he / she is not there yet)
How would your life be different from what it is right now?
What would it give you to have this relationship?
What feelings / mood?
What else in your life right now, could give you that mood?
If it is security, what could give you an experience of security right now? If it is cohesion, what could give you an experience of cohesion? If it is adventure, joy, sexual gratification, having a partner, doing things with, relief, lightness, meaningfulness, feeling good enough, hoping for children, etc. - what could just give you a similar feeling even though it may be a weaker feeling?
Start today doing the things that can give you the feelings and moods!
Keep doing the things the next few days and weeks - and notice the mood it gives you
Negative emotions and discomfort may appear. These are typically signs of lack. Stay with this as best you can or wait to do this activity until you are more in balance. It can also be other old things that pops up. It is a good idea to clean up in these things, if you want to attract the partner You want. It is not, that you have to be completely whole and perfect - it happens to very few - but that you reconcile yourself to those things and land them.
Acceptance is the first step. Accept the moods and feelings that are now. Sometimes, especially if you have shock trauma energy in stock, then it may require more landing than acceptance
With this activity you build your skills up to attract your future partner.
If you want to have a partner, who wants to spend a Lot of time with you, show yourself that you are Worth spending time with. Spend. quality time with yourself 30 min a Day.