Post by annieb on Nov 27, 2019 14:00:04 GMT
I am a FA and have in the past insisted in staying relationships way past their expiration date, personally. Conjured all kinds of reasons to stay in a relationship (and friendships). So almost the opposite was my problem. When I left the relationships it was way overdue and I stayed and ruminated on all kinds of unhealthy situations. I re-lived my own abuse and abandonment in these relationships. After I got the insight, I was able to cut relationships that weren't going to go the distance for me much faster. When it comes to smothering, I disliked that mostly because it felt like it was always about them and not about me. I was an object in a way to them. And that made me uncomfortable. AS a FA I must say that I have given it all a more or less fair shot despite my issues. I am alone now so I guess I still lived the self fulfilling prophecy. My last relationship was abusive and I left.