Moved: Does a DA ever feel remorse or regret for hurting someone?

I don't care to interact with a personality that engages in her form of expression either, I get it. The thick skinned comment is a version of the "you're just too sensitive" manipulation. And, if she were thick skinned then she would have taken the initial points made in response to her with a grain of salt. That is not the case , clearly; there is a lot of projection going on in my opinion and apparently her tone and approach is culturally acceptable where she is from. So, she doesn't really need to do anything differently actually but just keep doing her and it will get her whatever it gets her.

She's arrived here baffled by the fact that her former intimate partner will have nothing to do with her. Many attribute these kind of endings to purely avoidant behavior on the part of the person who went no contact. With a little time they may or may not see that their part in the dynamic was damaging. Most do show up here claiming to be the epitome of love even when their posts devolve into bitter cruel rants- there is no person here that I know of that is actually the epitome of love. There is no person here that I know of that didn't do 50% of the work to destroy a relationship. Those that put humble effort into addressing their own shortcomings and destructive beliefs and behaviors find more success in their relationships.

So my point is, I agree with your assessment here but it will all play out one way or the other, some personalities here are best off not interacting with each other. It's a very diverse group and some of us resonate and some of us don't. NYC can hold her own against criticism and so can those of us who choose not to participate with her dynamic. There are those who don't care to participate with mine I'm sure, and that's ok also. In the end, what happens off these boards is the proof of the process, and to each their own.

thank you, @thatright. I appreciate the support and what I've learned in this short time of knowing about this attachment type, it's truly been enlightening, and knowledge is power. It helps me understand people not only that I have been romantically involved with, but people around me in general. My eyes have been way opened. I feel better understanding what may be going on with him and that helps me greatly to know that it's not really necessarily about me.  I also am not angry at him like I was. I generally don't stay angry at ex's though, I usually take time to process it, move through the steps of the grieving process,  move on and remember the good things.

Something else I learned that has a name to it is called Fading Affect Bias, where one tends to forget the bad things and remember the good things about a relationship. I can absolutely see this happening, as most of our relationship was great, save for the few times we had with conflict. 

Thank you again for the help and insight.

I hope my advice has helped. As said before, I too have been through the exact same thing as you.