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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2019 16:21:45 GMT
I am clueless on this one, it's foreign to me. When I leave a relationship I keep no trace and don't do this at all. I wouldn't say it's DA behavior, maybe something else unrelated to specifically to dismissive avoidance though. I don't keep memories. Maybe some do. I don't understand it. I keep no trace as a secure. I wipe them out of my life to move on. then again, I’m not the type to post a bunch of couple photos and share my relationships all over social media either. I’d share one once in a blue moon and it was with others or just a funny photo of us. Now a days I’ve just wiped social media out of my life except for my business accounts. It sets you free! It could be as simple as they forgot about the photos... many read way to much into what is on social media... Social media is poison for AP's. I am stunned about how much power and obsession exists around stalking or "peeking" at an ex's social media activity. It is toxic. So much drama around social media. It's pointless. Without the internet you wouldn't be privy to your ex's activity- as it should be. If you poke and peek you asked for it, and you'll get it. |
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Post by tnr9 on Aug 29, 2019 16:39:25 GMT
I keep no trace as a secure. I wipe them out of my life to move on. then again, I’m not the type to post a bunch of couple photos and share my relationships all over social media either. I’d share one once in a blue moon and it was with others or just a funny photo of us. Now a days I’ve just wiped social media out of my life except for my business accounts. It sets you free! It could be as simple as they forgot about the photos... many read way to much into what is on social media... Social media is poison for AP's. I am stunned about how much power and obsession exists around stalking or "peeking" at an ex's social media activity. It is toxic. So much drama around social media. It's pointless. Without the internet you wouldn't be privy to your ex's activity- as it should be. If you poke and peek you asked for it, and you'll get it. I have defriended B and haven’t had an urge to check....what is the point now? I do think that as an AP, it is best to not remain friends....at least on Facebook. I am not friends with anyone else I previously dated...not sure now why I thought it was a good idea to stay friends once he broke up with me....all it did was lead to me being still so focused on him....without access to his page and his life....I am now better able to bring the focus back on me. |
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Post by 8675309 on Aug 29, 2019 17:02:51 GMT
I keep no trace as a secure. I wipe them out of my life to move on. then again, I’m not the type to post a bunch of couple photos and share my relationships all over social media either. I’d share one once in a blue moon and it was with others or just a funny photo of us. Now a days I’ve just wiped social media out of my life except for my business accounts. It sets you free! It could be as simple as they forgot about the photos... many read way to much into what is on social media... Social media is poison for AP's. I am stunned about how much power and obsession exists around stalking or "peeking" at an ex's social media activity. It is toxic. So much drama around social media. It's pointless. Without the internet you wouldn't be privy to your ex's activity- as it should be. If you poke and peek you asked for it, and you'll get it. Yes, don’t poke the feelings bear!! Lol social media will put you in a black hole of feels you don’t want! |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2019 19:05:51 GMT
Social media is poison for AP's. I am stunned about how much power and obsession exists around stalking or "peeking" at an ex's social media activity. It is toxic. So much drama around social media. It's pointless. Without the internet you wouldn't be privy to your ex's activity- as it should be. If you poke and peek you asked for it, and you'll get it. I have defriended B and haven’t had an urge to check....what is the point now? I do think that as an AP, it is best to not remain friends....at least on Facebook. I am not friends with anyone else I previously dated...not sure now why I thought it was a good idea to stay friends once he broke up with me....all it did was lead to me being still so focused on him....without access to his page and his life....I am now better able to bring the focus back on me. I'm proud of your progress!! The choices you are making now will shape a better future for you. Great job!! |
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Post by tallkelly on Sept 6, 2019 1:21:39 GMT
I think it’s been 7 or 8 weeks now since we’ve spoken. After a lot of thought, I blocked him...permanently. I wanted to really think about it before I did it, to be sure I was making the right decision. Yesterday morning he found an online account I have, & sent me a message there...his messages are so odd. He doesn’t say “I miss you” or “I’m sorry”, he acts as if everything is fine and we just spoke yesterday. I’m this particular message he said “you look great in those white jeans...we should go kayaking before it gets too cold”. So bizarre. I blocked him on every single thing I could think of, but I’m really kind of upset. He’s a really successful, educated & intelligent person, I am alarmed & surprised that he’s walking this like between creepy & harassing.
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Post by kisstheviolets on Sept 7, 2019 15:00:29 GMT
Social media is poison for AP's. I am stunned about how much power and obsession exists around stalking or "peeking" at an ex's social media activity. It is toxic. So much drama around social media. It's pointless. Without the internet you wouldn't be privy to your ex's activity- as it should be. If you poke and peek you asked for it, and you'll get it. I have defriended B and haven’t had an urge to check....what is the point now? I do think that as an AP, it is best to not remain friends....at least on Facebook. I am not friends with anyone else I previously dated...not sure now why I thought it was a good idea to stay friends once he broke up with me....all it did was lead to me being still so focused on him....without access to his page and his life....I am now better able to bring the focus back on me. Did you block his number too? |
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Post by tnr9 on Sept 7, 2019 21:12:55 GMT
I have defriended B and haven’t had an urge to check....what is the point now? I do think that as an AP, it is best to not remain friends....at least on Facebook. I am not friends with anyone else I previously dated...not sure now why I thought it was a good idea to stay friends once he broke up with me....all it did was lead to me being still so focused on him....without access to his page and his life....I am now better able to bring the focus back on me. Did you block his number too? No...but he won’t reach out. |
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Post by kisstheviolets on Sept 7, 2019 23:29:44 GMT
Did you block his number too? No...but he won’t reach out. Sorry I creep on you! haha But I just resonate with you so much currently. Why do you think he will not? Also, if me asking these questions makes you uncomfortable because it's about B, I totally understand. I do not mean to be something that keeps your focus on him. |
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Post by tnr9 on Sept 8, 2019 0:36:15 GMT
No...but he won’t reach out. Sorry I creep on you! haha But I just resonate with you so much currently. Why do you think he will not? Also, if me asking these questions makes you uncomfortable because it's about B, I totally understand. I do not mean to be something that keeps your focus on him. He won’t because he is in a new relationship and his focus will be all about her. Also....I did 90% of the reaching out to get together. |
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Post by kisstheviolets on Sept 8, 2019 2:44:55 GMT
Sorry I creep on you! haha But I just resonate with you so much currently. Why do you think he will not? Also, if me asking these questions makes you uncomfortable because it's about B, I totally understand. I do not mean to be something that keeps your focus on him. He won’t because he is in a new relationship and his focus will be all about her. Also....I did 90% of the reaching out to get together. How long is he in the relationship now? Did he actually mark it on FB? If so I hope he would understand. That’s such torture.💔 |
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Post by stu on Sept 8, 2019 3:35:44 GMT
I think it’s been 7 or 8 weeks now since we’ve spoken. After a lot of thought, I blocked him...permanently. I wanted to really think about it before I did it, to be sure I was making the right decision. Yesterday morning he found an online account I have, & sent me a message there...his messages are so odd. He doesn’t say “I miss you” or “I’m sorry”, he acts as if everything is fine and we just spoke yesterday. I’m this particular message he said “you look great in those white jeans...we should go kayaking before it gets too cold”. So bizarre. I blocked him on every single thing I could think of, but I’m really kind of upset. He’s a really successful, educated & intelligent person, I am alarmed & surprised that he’s walking this like between creepy & harassing. He's trying to re engage you without dwelving into uncomfortable feelings for himself. It's just a way of circling back indirectly. None the less unless they are working on themselves it's not a good idea to go back, and when they are doing things for themselves the way they communicate will be much more clear. |
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Post by tnr9 on Sept 8, 2019 10:37:34 GMT
He won’t because he is in a new relationship and his focus will be all about her. Also....I did 90% of the reaching out to get together. How long is he in the relationship now? Did he actually mark it on FB? If so I hope he would understand. That’s such torture.💔 He did mark it FB official....that when I defriended him. |
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