Fellow FA’s or FA lovers. Just wondering!

Seems to be a recurring theme with the F-A attachment. That along with the fantasy of "the one", partner on pedestal, a saviour/rescuer even (my ex. F-A mentioned things recently like "I just want to be kept"), so dependent in effect.
And so I suspect and F-As here may elaborate or think about. The enmeshment trauma with the caregiver/parent, has formed that dependency, they encroached on your boundaries, quashing them in effect early in whatever fashion. Codependency in the form of people pleasing (if fawn response like my ex.) to clearly satiate the abusive parent.

With my acquaintance, sheer abuse, punishment, physically and emotionally if a ridiculous standard of perfection was not met, along with intermittent running down on top to this very day!

The "rushing ahead" I presume is partially the "craving for connection" along with subconsciously pushing an attachment for when the "false persona" is let down. From the anxious side of the F-As attachment.