Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2019 17:31:40 GMT
Hi All
I'm new to this forum. I watched a video about the dismissive avoidant attachment style. One thing that really stood out for me of this video was the following. I have copied and pasted.
The most common deactivation for a dismissive avoidant is to pull away when things get too serious. One minute you are in love and happy and then the next minute a dismissive is pulling away. Pulling back not calling as much. It's nothing personal. It's too keep distance between you and them. Because they don't want to be vulnerable. The sad part is, the dismissive does this to people who are most important to them. So if a person doesn't matter that much, then that person will have a fairly normal relationship with the dismissive. But if you are a person dating a dismissive and you are actually important to them and they actually feel emotionally connected to you, you are going to be the person they push away.
I wanted to know your views on why would an avoidant push away those who are important or they feel emotionally connected with? But if a person doesn't matter that much, then that person will have a fairly normal relationship with the dismissive.
I'm new to this forum. I watched a video about the dismissive avoidant attachment style. One thing that really stood out for me of this video was the following. I have copied and pasted.
The most common deactivation for a dismissive avoidant is to pull away when things get too serious. One minute you are in love and happy and then the next minute a dismissive is pulling away. Pulling back not calling as much. It's nothing personal. It's too keep distance between you and them. Because they don't want to be vulnerable. The sad part is, the dismissive does this to people who are most important to them. So if a person doesn't matter that much, then that person will have a fairly normal relationship with the dismissive. But if you are a person dating a dismissive and you are actually important to them and they actually feel emotionally connected to you, you are going to be the person they push away.
I wanted to know your views on why would an avoidant push away those who are important or they feel emotionally connected with? But if a person doesn't matter that much, then that person will have a fairly normal relationship with the dismissive.
