NEW: Am I a fearful avoidant?

Hi Anne,

I've experienced a lot of these things in life. (but I am not complaining)

being in a warzone
CHECK
tusnami, earthquakes ect.
CHECK
shock trauma and overwhelmingness CHECK

attatchment trauma
()
bullying - Peter Levine: www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYtlS7qTBHE
CHECK
adoption NO

accident,
CHECK
operation,
CHECK
violence (verbal or physical) etc.
CHECK
Rape NO

traffic accident
CHECK
operations
CHECK
fall ()

death of close relatives
CHECK
serious disease
CHECK
loss of a partner / work / economy
CHECK
too much stress
CHECK
bullying at workplaces/bosses/collegeas with antisocial personality disorder/NPD
CHECK (psychopaths even)
being in a relationship with a person with a personality disorder (ANSP/NPD/BPD ect.)
CHECK (BPD)
emotionally difficult situations in childhood such as bullying, drama, threatening or unpredictable atmosphere in the home, abusive parents, neglect of care or parents' quarrels and fights (which can be done very quietly, the mood is still recorded by the children). Even loving parents, who are heavily stressed, can be a burden for the children.
WELL SOME OF THEM
Concussions
NO
Being born prematurely NO

In-utero stress experience (a soon-to-be mama who is overly stressed is common; as they’ve found in women who were pregnant during war or terror attacks.
NO
Early surgical procedures (even ‘simple’ procedures such a tonsillectomies have debilitating effects on some kids and levels of PTSD can be equivalent, if not higher than veterans returning from war!
CHECK 2 weeks of quarantine when I was 2.
Eye surgeries and frequent dental work (even braces!) are another common procedures that we tend to miss when assessing early trauma.
(SEE ABOVE)
Lack of emotional attunement. (Mis-attunement, as subtle as it may seen, is one of the more severe forms of early trauma.)
()
Being adopted. (Unfortunately, having a loving adopted family doesn’t inoculate you against the stress of being put up for adoption in the first place).
NO
Parents who are addicted, anxious, depressed and/or not very present emotionally and/or aren’t embodied as a result of their own past traumas or being sick and unwell.
NO

Have You been put into daycare too early.
NO
Has there been enough attunement and connection with adults in the daycare/kindergarden ?
DONT KNOW
The length of your parents maturnity leave
DONT KNOW
Have your parents been away from You on hollydays when you were a child
NO
Have you or one of your parents been hospitalised when you were a child
NO
Have one of your parents been away on business trips when you were a child YES

Have one of your parents lost their own parents when you were a child
YES
Have one of your parents had to take care of a sick parent or relative when you were a child
YES (my great Aunt).
Have you had emotional absent caregivers
NO
Physical absent caregivers
NO
Limited nurturing contact with your parents/other caregivers
NO
There could also be transgenerational trauma in your family () 


--> means I don't really understand or know

justcheckin
Wow, there is a lot of what you are describing that could cause stuck trauma energy in your nerveussystem, so that your nerveussystem can become dysregulated.

When you've got chock trauma you can act a bit like a person with desorganised attatchment style.

This can be what's causing you problems in your lovelife.

"I find a lot of people boring, because I have a very high IQ myself.
It could be I am (subconsiously) attracted to unstable women too because they keep challenging me intellectually"
Where do you link being highly intelligent with the need to be with unstable woman ?
- this can be caused by the tension in your nerveussystem...(people can be attracted to unstable people and dangerous situations/places, because they can get addicted to the high adrenalin, intensity and drama, which "boring" people are not able to provide. This can also make you overhear warning signals because you have dissociated) ?

Have you tried SE / attatchment therapy ?

A trained professional can proberly be helpful. It is recommended that the therapist works with the trauma energy first and then ap and or the avoidant traits afterwards.

Only a professionel is able to see what's going on with you.
jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/1073/healing-disorganized-trauma-dramaqueen-king

jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/880/self-regulating-regulation-exercises-ect