Post by anne12 on Jan 22, 2021 20:23:36 GMT
6 good advice for close relatives:
1. Accept and appreciate the difference. Do not demand that the highly sensitive stop being sensitive or become the same type as you are.
Share many positive emotions and experiences with the highly sensitive - the sensitive receptivity to positive experiences enriches your interaction and quality of life.
3. Remember that impressions, situations and activities that you care about can be tiring for the highly sensitive. When the particularly sensitive one withdraws, it does not necessarily have to be about you. But rather about a greater need for the break
4. Find ways to be together that suit you both well (eg when partners have to choose a holiday, or friends choose which movie to watch etc…)
5. When highly sensitive are overwhelmed by impressions, their worst sides emerge - a time-out without impressions helps them return to the "best version of themselves". The best result occurs through conscious team work: the highly sensitive is primarily responsible. But your support is worth its weight in gold.
Appreciate all the benefits of knowing a highly sensitive person: e.g. the ability to empathize, the deep reflections, the strong conscience, etc.
Post by anne12 on Jan 22, 2021 20:42:00 GMT
STRESS AND SENSITIVITY
Overstimulation is often stressful to hsp s
Sensitive people pick up many nuances that others do not notice. They experience a lack of a filter or "extra layer of skin", and that they can be bombarded with impressions in everyday life. Situations that others find relaxing and positively stimulating drain them of energy. Without them understanding why.
The feeling of being overwhelmed
The feeling of being overwhelmed is, among other things, that the amount of stimuli become "too much". Too many stimuli cause the sensitive to lose their composure or become exhausted. And overstimulation makes it difficult to take advantage of the many benefits of being sensitive.
Knowledge of sensitivity
Finding out what it means to be sensitive is the first step on the road. It can often provide great relief, many can have an AHA experience. One can better understand oneself and see clearly which situations give stress. In this way, over time, you will be able to build the personal strength needed to cope with stress problems.
Post by anne12 on Jan 23, 2021 9:01:54 GMT
How to make a choise / how to make a decision:
Both our slow speed and our final tendency to be right follow from the most central aspect of our trait, our depth of processing. We notice even quite subtle aspects of our world and a vast array of the possible consequences of a choice. All of this goes into our consideration of what may be going to happen and what we should do. Much of the time we are not aware of this process, or aware but it does not complicate decisions. In fact, it can make it easier to decide what to do.
When we must consciously make a choice, however, we can suffer with real dilemmas, even over choosing a flavor of ice cream. All of this awareness of the details and possibilities can make it much more difficult than for non-HSPs. Then we can get teased for it, or frustrate the people around us. The ice cream server wants our order and our mind freezes as stiff as gelato. The realtor wants to close the deal and our mind panics and runs out our imagined new door. If our decision affects others also, eeks!
Part of the problem is that, because of being more emotionally responsive, we are more upset than others by making the wrong decision. Indeed, often when the choice is between two things we want, we tend to process all of the consequences, that is, regret the loss of the one we did not choose.
Okay, Your Choice Could be Wrong
First, face how much uncertainty is involved. Often there is a great deal and with serious consequences. An HS couple wants to have a baby, but fear the child might be very difficult in some way, or that given the wife's age the infant might be born with Downs syndrome, autism, or some other genetic problem. The odds are small but go up with age. However, what their baby will be like they can't know.
Uncertainty lurks in almost every decision, and as an HSP you can feel that more than others, often without being fully conscious of the fact. You are trying to decide between two or more jobs, colleges, places to live, apartments to rent or homes to purchase. You can go through endless inspections and investigations, but some things you cannot know until you are in the situation, and some things will change with time, including how you feel about your choice.
If you face the brutal fact that you may be wrong no matter what you do, you can go to step two:
Think about how you will handle being wrong. How serious will it really be? Can you be philosophical about making a mistake? Put it in perspective? See the "big picture"? We all make mistakes. What matters is that we learn from them. Or ask yourself whether in a year or ten years it will even matter? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
Sometimes a choice at first feels like a mistake--especially when you give up what you are used to, and naturally you will miss parts of that. However, usually your thoughtful decisions turn out to have huge benefits in the long run. Some of you can also take the stance that things always or usually turn out for the best, or that a higher power is guiding your life. On the other hand...
Have a Way to Undo Your Decision if You Can
I always try to have an exit strategy. Maybe it will cost extra, but can you get home early from where you are planning to go if you want to? Can you take a sabbatical for a year from your job in case you change your mind about leaving it? How much would it cost to move again if you hated where you chose to live? Marriages tend to last longer if you do not have an exit strategy, but sometimes HSPs are better off when trying to commit if they consider how bad it would really be if their marriage ended in divorce. Maybe it would be very painful or costly to make a change, but it helps to know that you could.
Make a List and Maybe Then Some
My husband and I once had to make the difficult decision for him to stay at his current job or accept a new position for more pay at a different university. There were an enormous number of variables to consider as well as uncertainties: How we would like the new city, how he would like the new job, the cost of finding the housing we would like, the enormous effort of moving and settling in, the friends we would leave, the health insurance each offered. Our minds were swirling with all of this, so in order to avoid forgetting any factor or overemphasizing one, we made a list.
The list inspired us to turn that into a spreadsheet. Beside each issue we put numbers, 1 to 10, about how good it would feel if that particular thing worked out for the better, how bad if something did not, how good it would feel to leave something we did not like about where we were, how bad it would feel to give something up that we had where we were. Then we had to estimate the odds of each of these if there was uncertainty involved. Having it on a spreadsheet, we could sum up the columns but also change the weights according to our shifting feelings or new information and instantly see the new resulting sum. There were actually many surprises when we did this, and the end result was that we did not take the job, and have never regretted it. We knew exactly why we did not.
While that method sounds pretty brainy or techy, it was full of feelings because we were rating how we would feel about each, and we could imagine different degrees of feeling, maybe even after we made the change, and see how that affected the overall picture. Mainly it helped us keep it all in the picture, rather than feeling our minds jumping all around from issue to issue, feeling to feeling, during the day when we wanted to think about other things and even more when we wanted to sleep at night.
Take Your Time
My firm advice is to take as long to decide as the situation permits, and ask for more time if you need it and can take it. During this time, try pretending for a minute, hour, day, or even week that you have made up your mind a certain way. How does that feel? Often, on the other side of a decision, things look different and this gives you a chance to imagine more vividly that you are already there.
Balance Carefully Your Needs and Those of Others
Few decisions are made outside of a social context. Very often our decisions affect others. Sometimes people really want or need us to choose something that we are not so sure will be good for us or even good for them. Although we must be very careful to let others make their own decisions, often we can sense what is good for others better than they can and need to state our observations as diplomatically as possible.
When a decision truly affects you and another equally, it's much more complicated. What are the issues for HSPs? One is knowing better. Sometimes I will ask my husband, a non-HSP, what he would like to do, or to choose between this or that. It's painful when, as soon as he tells me, I realize that this is going to be the wrong choice. That trail isn't shady enough for hiking in summer at mid-day, or doesn't he remember the bad food we had at that restaurant last time? Actually, he is used to me being better at these types of choices--I'm the HSP--so he usually agrees as soon as I point out the problems. Of course, sometimes I'm wrong, and taking the responsibility can be hard, too. Then there are times when I can't decide, so he decides on one thing, and only then do I know I want the other.
If you both know what you want and it is different, use all the skills for conflict resolution that can be found on the web or in advice books, but you can also use The Highly Sensitive Person in Love for HSP-specific suggestions. For example, non-HSPs often state their needs with a higher volume, even when in fact they care about the outcome less than you do. Ask any non-HSPs involved to rate how important something is for them from one to ten, and also how important it is if they do not get their way. Do the same for yourself. Now you see the true balance.
When you really must sacrifice your needs, which we are prone to do as especially empathic people, be very careful. Could you go to your grave resenting the other person for this decision? You must make your decision fully conscious of the costs and fully willing to accept them and never bring it up again.
Also remember that if you discussed the decision with the other and you feel he or she agreed to let you have your way, and then it turns out to be wrong, there is no reason for guilt. That's an HSP tendency. We can feel guilty even if something we intended to do by a selfless decision turns out to be good for ourselves, too. Self-interest, when it dovetails with a greater good, is nothing to be ashamed of.
Be Careful About Others' Advice
Sometimes non-HSPs in particular, with no (conscious) stake at all in your decision, will voice strong opinions about what you should decide, often while focusing on only a small part of the decision or thinking of how they would feel in your situation. The sheer strength of their expression can throw you. If you said something in this tone, it would represent near certainty. With non-HSPs, it often turns out "Oh, you heard it that way? I didn't really..." These opinions can stick in our minds and hearts, especially if we care about how the person will feel if we decide to go against this advice.
The people you want to ask are those who have information you may not have--those living in the town you will move to, going to the college you may choose, working in the career you are considering, or who have had that second or third child you are thinking about. Also ask those like vocational or college counselors who have helped others make the same decision.
Above all, talk with those types who really listen to you and reflect back what you are saying. "Sounds like you are saying that it really worries you, living in a big city." Again, be careful of those who do not listen. Some may have strong opinions that are really more philosophical or political. For example, some people feel small or large families are better or even morally right, but your situation is not being considered.
May most of your decisions feel right! Always right, we HSPs know, is too much to expect.
Post by anne12 on Jan 23, 2021 10:06:18 GMT
Energetic boundaries:Energetic Swiffer Duster exercise:
At the end of each day, or after a draining experience, imagine dragging a swiffer from your head down to your toes, inside and outside of your body.
Imagine the duster picking up all the energy that doesn’t serve you or belong to you. Do this as many times as you need to to release the residue that isn’t yours. This simple exercise is part of good energetic hygiene. Just like we need to brush our teeth daily, it’s a good idea to clean ourselves off in this way regularly, too.
There’s a little-known force responsible for some of the main challenges Highly Sensitive People face. I used to witness it daily in my own life, but I had no idea what to call it, let alone how to change it. Before I tell you what it is, let me share how other HSPs have described it:
“It’s so hard to constantly absorb the emotions of people around me.”
“I’m exhausted from having to process SO much throughout the day – not only my many emotions, but sometimes the emotions/energy of the people around me.”
“It can be painful to care so much about all living things.”
Do those sound familiar?
The issue behind all of these struggles is energetic boundaries. I hadn’t heard the term energetic boundaries until a few years ago, but understanding this concept has changed my life. Let me paint you a picture of how my life used to be:
I constantly tuned into the emotional states of those around me so I could adjust how I showed up.
I soaked up others’ energy like a sponge.
I was often confused about whether my feelings were mine or someone else’s.
I was exhausted from carrying and feeling so much emotion.
I felt all of this pain, because my energetic boundaries were compromised.
What Are Energetic Boundaries?
Cyndi Dale, author of the book Energetic Boundaries says, they “border our spiritual selves and promote our true nature….When created and managed correctly, they make sure that our real selves- not the ideas, thoughts, and beliefs that aren’t us- are in charge of our lives.
And they share information with the world, telling everyone exactly who we are, what we want, and how they can treat you…quite simply, without boundaries, we can’t share who we are with the world.”
In other words, energetic boundaries are like energetic/spiritual skin. Just like our physical skin protects us from absorbing every pollutant in our environment, healthy EBs keep us from absorbing all the energetic “stuff” in our environment.
They protect us by keeping in the energy that supports us and letting out what doesn’t. They also draw to us things that we need like guidance, relationships, life lessons, and healing.
Your Energetic Boundaries Can Become Damaged
Read Energetic Boundaries by Cyndi Dale
Find an HSP-informed therapist or coachsensitiveevolution.com/energetic-boundaries-the-one-thing-most-hsps-dont-know-about-but-desperately-need/
Post by anne12 on Jan 23, 2021 17:38:35 GMT
Get more warmth in love life - for singles:
Good advice when you are single and going on dates
1. Meet rejections with warmth and understanding
As a sensitive person, you are typically more affected by rejection. Both of others' rejection of you and of having to reject another yourself. Try to face the discomfort - your own and the other's discomfort - with warmth and without condemnation of yourself or the other.
It will enable you to relate more consciously, clarified and strongly to the pain you and the other are going through.
2. Plan self-care for difficult situations
If after a date you are shaken, hurt, disappointed or feel self-critical, it is good to have thought in advance about what you want to do: What makes you open your heart again? How do you calm down? What thoughts should you think? What actions build you up? Who should you talk to? - and who are you not talking to? Be aware of what support you can give yourself and what support you need from others. Write if necessary. in advance a loving and supportive letter to yourself with important messages that you need to remember when you are having a hard time.
3 Practice showing confidence, joy and warmth in your relationship with yourself You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life - no matter who your partner becomes. When you are overstimulated or have negative emotions, you can try to treat yourself as lovingly as possible. Hereby you accustom your brain and your psyche to maintain calm. You train your ability not to get upset when something is difficult - it will not only benefit you here and now, but also strengthen you to cope with challenges in a future relationship.
4. Make room for the many different emotions. Some sensitive people feel very hurt over a previous relationship. Others tell them that they must learn to "let go and move on." But it can be a deep and painful process, when one's emotional life is more intense. Not least for the sensitive, who have had a stressful childhood. Give yourself understanding and acceptance, that it can be a long process for you to heal the wounds of the past. Perhaps you will feel some relief when you allow yourself both to feel the sadness of the past and to open yourself just as quietly to what you yourself can do in the future. Do not climb, but take small affordable steps.
Post by anne12 on Jan 24, 2021 14:42:26 GMT
Highly sensitive people are extra "five-sense" sensitive
On the video below Ilse Sand speak about how highly sensitive people typically feel uncomfortable with strong smells, loud noises or cold and draughts.
- Sharp light
- loud noises / loud music / sounds / other peoples tone of voice
- hunger sensitive
- different textures in clothes
- certain smellsm.youtube.com/watch?v=e0oORkKaFvA
Do you often get drained of energy ?!
In. life in general and in relation to your possible practices that treat.
Imagine you have a barometer that measures your energy. And it must never go to zero or below zero!
Investigate and become super sharp in WHAT it is that is draining you!
In fact, it is often quite specific things you have not noticed that disturb your sensitivity. And other times it is more diffuse energy situations. But you can constantly get better and better at discovering how you can take even better care of yourself and look more and more concretely at the individual situations + develop more practical solutions to those situations
Notice now in the situation where you feel drained. Rewind a little and think about what has happened from the time you had more energy and then to now! ??
Was there too much noise?
Did anyone speak with a loud penetrating voice?
Were there many people who wanted something from you?
Was there general noise and confusion?
Did you stress yourself from the inside out about something you needed to achieve?
Quarrels among the children or constant questions?
A friendly person who disrupted your flow in concentrating.
Too much heat or cold?
Wrong diet - Imbalance in the hormones?
Calls on the phone
Very ugly surroundings? - Can actually be draining
Clutter - At home on your computer, in your head, in your appointments -
Become more precise and aware of the exact things you are sensitive to.
That way you have a chance to detect it before your barometer is smoked all the way down to zero or below, your nervous system is shaken and you get angry, irritated, tired, sick, stressed, depressed, hurt, extroverted, scolding children / boyfriend / others out or how you now react when you are overloaded.
How do you react specifically?
It is not to be delicate, to be conscious and be able to put into words your sensitivities! On the contrary, it provides power, as you can now deal with those things purely practically!
Now you can take into account the things that are bothering your nervous system. Before it gets irritated that it is draining or really uncomfortable.
Many of us let it go too far because we are polite, inattentive, unconscious, afraid to say no, do not give ourselves enough respect or anything.
What can you do practically to avoid the situations that make you overloaded or drained? Be very practical about things. There is almost always a solution. The reason you find yourself in the situation is only that you have not looked properly and clarified it yet.
Do what you are good at !!! I first examine if I just have resistance to things because I want to avoid being powerful OR it's actually not my "genius zone". If they are not genius zones, I will not waste more energy on them.
Think about whether you need to change your communication habits to something that suits you better. Do you have to do phonecalls if you can not bear to speak? Can it be done in writing? You can do exactly what you want my darling! Create your life so htat you will get a delicious life. Take all the dogmas into consideration. Design your own life!
Always make sure it is well stocked
What you can do to fill up your barometer
Eg. do you know that you have walked around with or without a warm sweater for far too long !! Maybe you were thinking "Just in a little while" or were just so focused on chores and not prioritizing your well-being. Maybe you did not want to download it. It may be this does not completely disrupt your nervous system. But goes into self-care instead. Never let a moment pass where you do not just have it super delicious! You deserve it.
Always make sure you have a great time!
Fill yourself up:
Listen to music or exciting lessons while doing "boring" things -
Dance eg when cooking, cleaning up
Do yoga, dance, stretch, meditate
Find a quiet place or listen to music
Make work and necessary "duties" enjoyable:
Always have something delicious in your bag or at home - that nourishes your body at the same time. Raw chocolate ect.
If you have to do something you resist or thought was boring, then you bring pleasure into the situation.
Make a trip in the public / airports super fun and / or educational trip, with magazines, delicious snacks, food and reading / listening material. Where you recharge in your own little world
Dance while doing housework
Listen to lessons that inspire you in your life / business while doing manual work / cycling / driving
Are you going to do something you thought was boring? Be consistent in spicing up the situation with something like: Soft clothes, comfortable chair, blanket, smoothie
Make sure your surroundings are beautiful and clean while you work
Ask yourself what you are missing in your life. AND GIVE IT TO YOURSELF TODAY! After all, life is not a waiting room.
How do you react specifically when you are overloaded?
In what specific situations do you feel drained?
What can you do to fill up your cup and do it throughout your day?
Become aware of your energetic boundaries
See it as if you are a house, that you have left.
You are busy being in your head and looking out for others, to make sure that others are okay with you, that things happen the way you want them, etc.
You use your sensitivity outside of yourself.
Until now, your body has been like an abandoned house.
World weather conditions (energies) have been able to whip through your house.
Others moods and agendas have strained through your system.
You must now move home and arrange yourself so comfortably, that you never want to leave your home again, no matter how exciting experiences you will have in the world.
Do this exercise out among others and experience how you become more and more aware of your energetic limits, where you end and where the rest of the world begins.
Elaine Aron youtu.be/C7u7kDuA2tM
Post by anne12 on Jan 24, 2021 14:56:15 GMT
Highly sensitive people pick up on many things and are deeply affected by them.
On the video Ilse Sand speak about how they sometimes feel like the canary in the mineshaft, because of their particularly sensitive nerve system.
Books translated into 24 different languagesilsesand.com
Post by anne12 on Feb 20, 2021 8:29:39 GMT
Sensitive and the Value of Loving Contact - with and without a partner
Tips and advice to bring out the best in your social sensitivity
If you carry genes for social sensitivity, you are more affected by your partner's mood - and as a single you can be more deeply hurt by a relationship and more affected by rejections on a date.
Here in the article you will get tips to handle your social sensitivity optimally and promote loving contact with your partner - and yourself.
- talk to your partner about how you create loving interactions and strengthen your relationship.
- get practical tips and advice to express love with and without words.
- learn what you can do as a single - and get deeper peace in going on dates.
Remember that you are more affected as a socially sensitive person.
Make sure you and your partner get the most out of your social sensitivity
As a socially sensitive person, you are more affected by the expression of emotions, than most others - whether you and your partner express it in words or between the lines. Therefore, it can be even more crucial for you that your emotional communication is of a high quality.
Talk to your partner about how you communicate your loving feelings with each other.
Agree on what you are good at and what you want to get better at.
Make a concrete plan for how your conversation can be the beginning of you sharing more loving and positive feelings with each other in everyday lif
YOU CAN AS A SOCIAL SENSITIVE HURT AND DRY OUT LIKE A FLOWER WITHOUT WATER, WHEN THE CONTACT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PARTNER IS CRITICAL AND COLD. ON THE OTHER HAND IF YOU AND YOUR PARTNER ARE LOVING AND WARM IN YOUR INTERACTION WITH EACHOTHER, YOU CAN FLOURICH STRONGLY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPHow can you strengthen the loving contact with your partner?
1. Express negative emotions thoughtfully
From research we know one sure thing about the durability of a relationship: - - if we have very “negative” behavior towards each other, it can be harder for us to stick together and thrive as a couple.
It's not just what we say to each other when we e.g. are excited or when we have put up a “cold wall” . It also means a lot - and apparently even more - how we show each other our feelings without words.
You are allowed to express negative emotions. If you suppress them, the emotional distance can grow. But express your negative feelings thoughtfully and only when necessary. Not as a bad habit.
Before and after expressing negative emotions, you can strengthen the contact between you by showing warmth and positive emotions.
2. Show your warmth and love in words
- When you acknowledge your partner's views - even if they are different from you own - it works like a glue that makes love last.
- You need to say positive words about your partner's actions and attitudes. You need to try to look openly at how your partner is experiencing issues, and you need to be willing to try out some of your partner's suggestions.
- You can thank your partner for help, forgive mistakes and offer your own help whenever possible.
- You can tell your partner how much his/her love means to you. You can remind yourself and your partner of good experiences you have had together.
- If you are upset, hurt or disappointed, you can stop shutting yourself off and pile up anger. You can instead honestly express it and, if possible, avoid using offensive words.
3. Strengthen the loving contact between you without words - it works stronger that words.
HOW CAN YOU SHOW LOVE WITHOUT WORDS?
Your tone of voice, your facial expressions, the way you turn towards or away from your partner, your involuntary movements and your whole body language can reveal friendliness and kindness - or radiate coldness, rejection and anger.
A warm smile, an open attitude, a loving tone of voice, a face that radiates joy, humor and cohesion all help to show your loving feelings. When we often share loving feelings, we can feel happier with each other and can have an easier time getting through conflicts.
Several studies of relationships show that non-linguistic expressions of emotion seem even stronger than words!
Tips for singles: jebkinnisonforum.com/post/39799/
Post by anne12 on Feb 20, 2021 9:04:44 GMT
FEMINITY - MASCULINITY
Do you know that as a woman you often have to protect yourself, set boundaries and fight your way through all the challenges of your days and in life itself ...?
There is a lot to do about setting boundaries and protect yourself, as well as protecting your worth, which must be put into force so strongly during periods of your life, that your whole being must dedicate itself to the process. We live in a world that is oriented around masculine values and methods. It has a price to be female and feminine and to go out in that field.
We move out into the world and have to find a way to put up a shield to protect ourselves. The open-minded, unconditionally loving and enthusiastic feminine being gets difficult conditions.
In periods of my life, I have had to be fiercely masculine in my approach in order to create space in general and space for myself. It's not because I can't do it or live it. But I notice an increasing fatigue, exaution and a fatigue associated with it. I'm tired of having to be on guard and ready to attac.
When I put up a shield, it not only ends up facing my challenges. It does something to me and makes sense to myself. The shield closes me inwardly, creating a sense of emptiness and a world without colors. I lose touch with the very nerve of what is my natural outlet - my sweetness, sensuality, gentleness, enjoyment and warmth. I'm only half. It is felt in everything - also in my relationships. We need the masculine and feminine duality to create the magic and attraction between the two poles.
When I feel insecure in life, I create my own masculine protection. But in return it creates
a inappropriate enclosure of my heart, which is petrified. I am not in flow with my relationships. But they stagnates. We need to be women and feel safe enough to lean into the feminine energy now. The world - our men and ourselves need femininity
A hsp (female) heart coach ♥️
Post by anne12 on Apr 19, 2021 6:47:51 GMT
Symptoms of highly sensitivity
Forget their own needs and desires
The symptoms that come with being highly sensitive are burnout and stress. That is, lack of energy, mood swings, lack of short-term memory or walking around with a feeling of not fitting in
Other symptoms can also be that we make decisions that are reactive and that are often bad for oneself. Of course, it also has an impact on the agreements you make with yourself. One can have a hard time keeping them and it ultimately gives poor self-confidence.
Physically, the sympathetic nervous system is largely at work - it is the nervous system we use when we have to make an extraordinary effort. If we are aware of the function and reaction of the nervous system, it is a great state to be in and it is very useful when we need to perform in less time. But when it's the system we use on a more permanent basis, things go wrong and we actually lose our ability to relax.
(this can depend weather you are a male or female, your connective tissue ect.)
Post by anne12 on Apr 19, 2021 6:55:31 GMT
A bodyworker explains
When I have clients who are highly sensitive, I often feel tension in the neck, throat, solar plexus and the lower abdomen. There may also be pain or a buzzing in the arms coming from the buckle in the neck and shoulders.
When the sensory impression from the body is that it is a harsh and confusing world, the emotions can be difficult to control and the head easily becomes filled with thoughts. From a very young age, it can give a basic feeling that you are not entitled to or desired in the world.
That attitude can cause a lot of problems in relation to relationships with other people. One may have a strong tendency to make choices where attatchment, weights higher than one's own needs and desires. Thus one will get a feeling of not being heard, or taken into account, and one is trapped in an eternal paradox which is self-affirming.
Often it is the feeling or sensation that we become or are afraid of when we are highly sensitive. But as with much else, it's about getting to know the unknown.
The techniques I use with hsp clients:
The basic methods are in-depth pulsations and pressures that either dampen or activate the body's tension pattern. Here I seek contact with the emotions or the emotion that lies in the pattern of tension. Emotions are the inner movements that are created in the body by impressions, and the various movements have a bodily expression. It is often in the trap between the emotional movement and the expression that problems arise
Either that we are not able to feel the movement, and thus can not express it. In sensitive people, it is strongly felt, but they hold it back the best as they can. When we in collaboration have contact with the feeling, I examine how old the feeling is. I inquire into the subconscious and until the client and the body's senses.
The sensory memory we have with us from before we were born, in contrast to our cognitive memory which for the most part only reaches back to the age of 3-4 years. Once the client has a sense and an idea of how old the feeling is and how it feels to be there, we can start working on the client's perception of himself as a child, and the relationship between his adult self and the childish feelings and sensations, sitting in the body from that time.
Then we can release the emotional paradox, and replace it with a more mature consciousness. The result is that the client's sympathetic nervous system becomes activated less and less. Then the quality of life increases and the decisions the client will make becomes more respectful and caring for themselves.
A bodyworker, a hsp specialist and inner child healer
Post by anne12 on Apr 19, 2021 7:26:50 GMT
When we go from the unknown to the familiar, it feels less dangerous. It also allows us to relate and separate the senses and emotions, and that is important in the healing process. For me as a therapist, the most important thing is to get the body to switch from the sympathetic nervous system to the parasympathetic nervous system, where the body is relaxed and can recover. This is where the body begins to regenerate or heal itself.
When we are in our sympathetic nervous system, we only breathe superficially, but a deep and calm breathing is the key to a more lasting relaxation. I work with the client's attention, sensation and awareness in their breathing, so that they themselves become aware of when the sympathetic nervous system is active and when it is not.
You can also use the increased awareness as a tool to find out in which situations you react to and how it is felt and felt in the body.
A bodyworker, hsp specialist
Post by anne12 on May 19, 2021 10:05:43 GMT
Regulating your nerveussystem with colers:
Is it possible to change your energy and your mood with different colours on your clothes and in your home ?
Colours affects our nervous system and our physiology.
In hospitals some rooms were painted turquoise and the patients in those rooms recovered faster than the patients in the white rooms.
In prisons prisoners became more calm in rose/pink coulered rooms.
A special kind of red painted on the walls in a room can make the temperature rise in the room.
In an experiment people were blindfolded and then they were wrapped in different coulered fabrics.
The people reacted differently depending on the coloured fabric they were wrapped in
Some people are more affected by colours than others.
Blue is very soothing for most hsp's
If you need more energy you can wear something in pink, orange or red.
If you are used to wear black you can change your energy by wearing a different color under your black clothes (top, underwear, lingerie, socks ect.)
Colors are also absorbed through the skin
If you got the same type of dress 👗 or t-shirt but in different colours, you can try to feel the change in your mood depending on which dress you are wearing.
If you are stressed or if you are going to a place or you are going to do something at your job that is stressfull it is probably best to wear something blue.
You can also get inspired by the coulers representing the different chakras
Orange gives life and symbolizes the harachakra. Orange symbolizes sex, joy, the playful child, food, get loose. Orange compliments blue.
In your home you can put orange colored asserories in the room.
If you find yourself less Worthy, you can use gold or paint a wall in a golden colour.
Black shuts down a lot of energy and can protect you and your energy if you are among many people.
Blue is soothing
Red lifts the energy. And is a good if you want to be more outgoing and social. Avoid red if you have high blood pressure or if you need to lose weight do not use red in your kitchen or if you are stressed.
Pink is more soothing than red.
Sun yellow is good for the solar plexus chakra .
Green is harmonious and soothing.
Sofpink/rosa symbolizes the heart chakra and is a self-loving color / a good colour for love and selfcompassion.
A hsp coach
Post by anne12 on May 19, 2021 12:32:17 GMT
The ways highly sensitive people (HSPs) describe the feeling of overload.
• Feeling out of control. Trapped in a burning building.
• Like someone poking your body and eyes and ears relentlessly and saying, "What? I'm not doing anything."
• Like there is too much of everything, and it's all coming at me . . . sights, sounds, smells, colors, actions, people, thoughts, pressure. My mind and body try to shut it all out. . . . I start to shut down . . . go numb and blank . . . need to get away . . . to quiet and peace.
• It's like electricity and light pulsating through my body, brain, and soul. Pure exhaustion and weight that I want free of. Makes me want to run and hide anywhere calm and peaceful.
•vChaos, like an out of body experience where I'm watching my life fall apart, and I have no control to stop it. My bed or a small room is the only way to feel somewhat safe. Isolating is protection for me.
• I feel like I’m in a daze and can’t really process what’s going on around me completely. Feels like my head is all foggy. It’s all overwhelming, and I can’t figure it out.
• I can't think straight. My mind reels. A kind of slow panic. Feeling I need to escape as quickly as possible
• Like a physical assault.
• DRAINING. Mental and physical energy completely depleted.
• A nervous break down.
• A bit like a panic attack. I get shaky, my chest tightens, and it’s hard to breathe. Instantly drained of all energy. And if I can’t remove myself from the situation, the room starts to spin, then I completely shut down.
• Like spider man . . . when he can hear everyone's conversations and a pin drop . . . or those photos where the crowds are rushing past but one person is standing still in the middle . . . like someone turned the volume up on everything. The brightness.
• I always say my spidey senses are on overload!
• I seem to have superhuman senses too.
• While I am in a sensory overload situation, I feel like what I imagine it feels liketo free fall when you jump while sky diving. When the situation ends, it feels like the sudden jerk of the parachute and complete fatigue.
• Just wanting to run away and hide, but not being able to makes me want to cry and die.
. Head pounding, energy drained, overwhelmed, anxious, emotional, tears will no doubt come.
• I feel like my inside is spinning out of control with increasing anxiety. I want to run away to a safe and quiet place.
. Muscles all tense, people sounding like they're in a tunnel, fibro pain acts up, wanting to smack people.
• Crazy making, heart palpitations, migraine, vertigo, anxiety, claustrophobia. Brain shuts down and goes into survival mode. Chaos! Circuit overload!
• Let me go.
• It starts as exhaustion, then escalates toward a panic attack. I also get extremely spacey. I have difficulty focusing on anything and make stupid mistakes. Afterwards, I am exhausted, and it can take me several days to recover.
• It feels the same as when my blood sugar drops, minus the clammy sweat (well, most of the time).
. Cognitive and physical fatigue.
• Muscles in knots. Unable to sleep. Wiped out.
• Like an itch you can't scratch. Feeling raw and exhausted but being unable to relax.
• Sadness: Like cutting onions.
• Anxiety: Like you’re underwater. Intense!!!!!
• Irritation and exhaustion.
• Like ten cups of espresso coffee in ten minutes.
• For me, it’s like something is sucking the life out of me.
• Overwhelming feeling of the need to get away from the person talking my head off. Why do people talk so much? About nothing?
• Negativity and emotional struggle, and people who are feeling overwhelmed!!
• Survival. Like I’m caught in a horrible nightmare and fighting for my life.
• Wishing I had an immediate 'cone of silence' ready to activate.
• Can’t breathe or make decisions.
. Gotta get outta here!
• Like my brain is pulsating or vibrating
• Like I’m in a bell tower and the bells are ringing 2 inches from my face.
• My vision starts to blur, and I often get a headache. Sounds start to seem to fade out, almost as if I am stuck in my own head. That's extreme overload. In the beginning, average overload, I get anxiety, and I have a hard time focusing. Because I'm always trying to take in the entire room. I think I shut myself down when it gets to the point I can't take any more. It's as if I'm in a bubble that cannot be penetrated.
• Heart start racing abnormally; heavy feeling in the brain; eye get drowsy to the point of getting closed; start yawning; wants to run away from meeting or retire in calm place and sleep for some time; shoulder start dropping; complete energy loss to the point other people start feeling uncomfortable; looks very tired to other folks
• Like your brain is pushed to its absolute limit. It badly affects your relationship with yourself and with people close to you. Hate it!
• emotional and verbal shutdown, inability to concentrate, headache, fatigue, irritability, feeling trapped, need to escape
• feeling very drained by my environment
• Panic attacks
• My system goes into shock. I get dizzy, I can’t process ANYTHING mentally. My heart pounds, I may get nauseous. Time slows down and I become disoriented. Feels like I’m outside of reality watching. My mind keeps questioning, with disbelief, what has just occurred and as I process the feeling of shock it washed over me like a wave...over and over and over. I am speechless. When the initial shock wears off I am, by then, probably collapsed on the ground sobbing uncontrollably.
• Similar to how a piano would look like if all its strings broke at the same time (picture a baby grand piano with its cover in the 'up' position so that you can see all of the strings)
• nothing goes in and nothing comes out. i completely shut down. tears and agitation until i can get to a place to escape some of the input
• It’s like I can’t handle one more thing in my head. I become very irritated, short tempered and ready. I sometimes also feel like I am overcome with anxiety.
• I felt completely lost and out of touch with everything that was around me. I could not focus on anything.
• Like silently screaming. Just need to get away.
This all sounds pretty awful, right? It is! It’s a horrible feeling when sensory overload takes over. One of the patterns I’ve noticed most about sensory overload is that it worsens when we are tired, sick, or too depleted. It’s almost like turning the nervous system volume up in everything.
Hsp's have such enormous gifts within, but they are often so buried by overwhelm that they end up just existing in a sort of survival space, meltdown after meltdown. They give up their needs by default, and most of their focus is external by default as well. Some tend to put everyone’s needs ahead of their own and often are not even sure what their needs are when asked. It seems easier to make sure someone else is comfortable and has their needs met, rather than having to deal with the feeling of disappointing someone. Sound familiar?