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Post by cat on Feb 17, 2020 22:36:26 GMT
Hi everyone! I'm not very active in the community but I keep reading your posts and I thank you all for your contribution. I was diagnosed FA a year ago but my anxiety has diminished a lot throughout this one-year therapy. Avoidance is pretty much high though. I'm in my early 20ies. I wanted to share my "relationship" with my mobile phone and social media. I quit Instagram a year ago, just couldn't stand all the pressure coming from comparisons with people's fake beautiful lives so I quit. I use Fb every now and then but I NEVER share anything personal (be it political, religious or in general personal ideas about important matters). Same goes for pictures, I just don't like to show things I think of as private on social media. Sometimes I turn my phone off for even 24 hours when I feel like I don't want communication with others/ feel overwhelmed by my friend's requests or texts. My DA friend does the same and to me it's 100 % relatable. An anxious-preoccupied friend gets worried sometimes and contacts me on Fb to ask if I'm okay. Is that a FA thing? When you just want to stay with yourself and cut contacts with the world out there? It would be nice to hear your side of the story. PS: English is not my first language, sorry for any possible mistake
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Post by number9 on Feb 17, 2020 22:51:33 GMT
Hi everyone! I'm not very active in the community but I keep reading your posts and I thank you all for your contribution. I was diagnosed FA a year ago but my anxiety has diminished a lot throughout this one-year therapy. Avoidance is pretty much high though. I'm in my early 20ies. I wanted to share my "relationship" with my mobile phone and social media. I quit Instagram a year ago, just couldn't stand all the pressure coming from comparisons with people's fake beautiful lives so I quit. I use Fb every now and then but I NEVER share anything personal (be it political, religious or in general personal ideas about important matters). Same goes for pictures, I just don't like to show things I think of as private on social media. Sometimes I turn my phone off for even 24 hours when I feel like I don't want communication with others/ feel overwhelmed by my friend's requests or texts. My DA friend does the same and to me it's 100 % relatable. An anxious-preoccupied friend gets worried sometimes and contacts me on Fb to ask if I'm okay. Is that a FA thing? When you just want to stay with yourself and cut contacts with the world out there? It would be nice to hear your side of the story. PS: English is not my first language, sorry for any possible mistake Yes! I sometimes turn off my phone for a few hours because I like to feel at peace with myself in my own environment -- without having to deal with anyone else's requests or comments or ideas. It really does create an instant feeling of calm. (I too am an FA -- as is my partner -- and, much thanks to this forum, we have come to terms with it, over all, to make a long story short.) Actually, with the phone, I use "Do not disturb" and then I keep one person on "Emergency bypass" -- and that is my son, who's 19, and still lives with me.
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Post by alexandra on Feb 17, 2020 23:50:35 GMT
cat, I don't think it's just an FA thing. It can simply be about boundaries and getting overwhelmed by technology always competing for your attention... or simply wanting time to disconnect (introverts recharge through some space and alone time). Pretty normal, actually, though some people rely too much on technology for their jobs and can't disconnect easily, or are too addicted to want to disconnect, or don't feel it's an issue and don't feel like it interrupts their lives or that it requires a break. Sounds like you're moving along on your journey
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