Post by serenity on Mar 10, 2020 0:38:45 GMT
I suppose you would need to be mindful that whatever he's doing, may not be about anyone else? He might be just doing his thing, without considering others at all.
But if you're feeling that's not the case, it could be you're experiencing "transference"? Some people, especially schizoids and those on the spectrum, project feelings they wish to disown onto those around them. It works something like this: ``I feel a bad thing'' , then they disown it by making someone else feel that ``bad thing''. Then the ``bad thing'' is outside of them. Its a strange, sometimes sadistic, but very specific kind of projection, and also a form of communication.
The early psychotherapists who studied this extensively looked at it as a cry for help, essentially. Schizoids would make their therapists feel rejection, dismissal, abandonment...they called this `transference'. And the therapist would use this as a therapeutic mirror for their patient...called `counter transference' ..this involved going onto to discuss how the patient was experiencing those `transferred' feelings, and help them.
Maybe googling transference/counter transference' could help, if this seems to be happening to you? It might give a clearer picture?
But if you're feeling that's not the case, it could be you're experiencing "transference"? Some people, especially schizoids and those on the spectrum, project feelings they wish to disown onto those around them. It works something like this: ``I feel a bad thing'' , then they disown it by making someone else feel that ``bad thing''. Then the ``bad thing'' is outside of them. Its a strange, sometimes sadistic, but very specific kind of projection, and also a form of communication.
The early psychotherapists who studied this extensively looked at it as a cry for help, essentially. Schizoids would make their therapists feel rejection, dismissal, abandonment...they called this `transference'. And the therapist would use this as a therapeutic mirror for their patient...called `counter transference' ..this involved going onto to discuss how the patient was experiencing those `transferred' feelings, and help them.
Maybe googling transference/counter transference' could help, if this seems to be happening to you? It might give a clearer picture?
