Narsissim the new normal ? Narcissistic surviver syndrome

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Terry Real narcissistic men
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Terry Real, psychotherapist and founder of Relational Life Therapy, specializes in working with men, particularly narcissistic, or what he calls “grandiose” men. In this deeply informative and timely interview, Terry talks to us about the different forms of narcissism, how narcissism develops, and the ways it emerges in relationships. In an era with Donald Trump as our leader, male narcissism rears its toxic head societally as well as within relationships, resulting in painful psychic and emotional consequences. We find out how narcissism expresses itself emotionally and sexually and ways that we can begin to deconstruct patriarchy by helping men to be more relational.

Gaslighting: (mindfuck/emotional abuse)

Terri Cole
m.youtube.com/watch?v=w6KBz4cXI_c

Dr. Ramani
m.youtube.com/watch?v=bVBdWSPXyRw

Gaslighting by tribe
www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/guide-better-relationships/201811/gaslighting-tribe

Narcissists in relation to anger:

They are not interested in finding solutions, but they are interested in the drama.
Do not take the bedding/the bait
Do not defend or explain yourself
Insist to focus on one topic and do not let them hijack the situation
A narcissist will never be interested looking at the situation from your point of wiew or being really interested in your perspective
A narcissist is very self-centered - everything has to be about the narcissist
A narcissist often does not have any self-reflection or self-irony and is often not able to laugh at themselves
A narcissist will never take responsibility, because responsibility is = fault and fault is = shame
Confrontations with narcissists will never end well
If healthy boundarie setting does not work on them, then stay away. Possibly end the contact or keep the contact at an absolute tolerable minimum.
You never get at healthy relationsship with a narcissist. Give up the dream or hope.
Narcissists often have an agressive anger pattern and a passive-aggressive anger pattern.
Look up "grey rock" if you are dealing with a narcissist.

AGGRESSIVE
Typical for the aggressive anger is that it is outreaching. You are doing something with your anger. e.g. shouts, gangs, criticizes, swings, becomes violent ect.
• Short-lived and flammable
• Explodes easily
• Comes fast and often hot (also without obvious reason)
• Easily intercepted with others
• Low patience threshold
• Big need for control (my way or the highway)
• May be extremely annoyed by people, if they make mistakes
• Quickly provoke and take things very personally
• May have lost friends, partners or jobs because of one's temperament
• May have ended relationships in anger and later regretted it
• At worst violent behavior
(narcissists and psykopaths anger pattern plus passive agressive - remember you can not use normal boundarie setting with narcs!)

Passive-Aggressive
People with passive-aggressive anger patterns are not outreaching like the aggressive, but they avoid conflict and are passive. They are angry and they are interested in punishing and in conflict, but they prefer to make it hidden.
• Anger through the back door - disguised, indirectly
• Does not become visibly angry, but sabotages and punishes instead in the hidden - eg by: being late/"forget" things (appointments / deadlines / to reply back to messages, etc.)/refuse to cooperate (say yes to do something but do not do it)/ deny their involvement if confronted/play innocent or stupid ("God, I have not thought about it!")/jam, expose
• Punishes with coolness, ignorance and silence
• Tends to confuse, irritate and provoke others (consciously but without admitting it)
• "Then you can learn it!"
• scums instead of saying that you are angry
• Sarcasm, suppositories and "out of the side" attacks (often masked as humor or "ha-ha-it-is-jo-just-for-fun" laughter)

Fleabags stepmom
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Dr. Ramani
How does being with a narcissist affect your body, mind, and soul?

"Cognitive Freezing" in a Narcissistic Relationship; Plus 4 Tips to Thaw
m.youtube.com/watch?v=7pzhdTm9TTg

Will I ever be good enough - daughters of narc mothers
youtu.be/jOY5HWpSPZ0
m.youtube.com/watch?v=anj26cYdk_4

Living with a narc mother
m.youtube.com/watch?v=iwTfgNolkBY

Narc mothers Dr. Ramani.
m.youtube.com/watch?v=VedPxLtgcLE

Narc women
m.youtube.com/watch?v=0OxEsWupS3M

Narc woman, The Devil wears Prada[/div]- bullies
-spread rumors
- gossip
- can also have historinc personality disorder

Female psychopaths Master of manipulation in the workplace "When the publication of our previous book, 'Psychopaths in working life', interest in the subject completely exploded and it shows that our thoughts about psychopathic behavior affect many," says Lisbet Duvringe. It's scary, taboo but also a bit of a tickling topic for many, says Mike Florette. More people need to know more, they both agree ”. In the new book, the authors focus specifically on female psychopathic behavior. It differs from the male and it is more difficult to detect female psychopaths. They are even more driven and uninhibited in their manipulation than male psychopaths, the authors say. The new book is based on interviews, conversations and research by several famous researchers, including the world-famous brain researcher James Fallon, who has also written the foreword to the book. The book also contains 14 stories about people who have been affected by female psychopaths. It also contains advice, prompts and tips on how to approach it.

James Fallon
m.youtube.com/watch?v=hZZSqH4uDg0