Play with the senses exersice: (all attatchmentstyles)
This is an effective way to get into the precent! It can also train your sensuality, and it's so valuable in your love life!
The sense of sight: · Close your eyes and put your hands over your eyes for a moment. Feel the eyes and the little muscles around the eyes · Remove hands and open your eyes slowly · Let your eyes look gently wherever they want. Do not stare, but let the visual impressions come to you · Just notice, that you are letting your eyes look, wherever they want · Use "looking gently" in your everyday life!
Hearing: · Notice the sounds around you without straining you. Let the sounds come to you · Just "watch" the sounds. You should not analyze, what they are or why, or if you like them or not · What do you notice right now inside you?
Taste: · Use your attention when you eat and drink (also, yes, especially your snacks, sweets, snacks, and beverages) · Do not do anything when you have something in your mouth! So no TV, PC or reading. Also try to eat in between without talking · Notice what you have in your mouth. How does it feel in the mouth and with tongue. How are you biting? How does it taste?
The sense of smell: · Stitch your nose in everything around you and smell. What does it smell like? · The world is rich in fragrances. Examine them and do not limit yourself to assess, what you like and do not like. Smell to yourself, others and everything around you ...
The sense of touch: · Examine everything around you: How does this feel when I touch it? Is it soft, hard, hot, cold, clumsy, sticky etc. · How does it feel on different parts of the body: the hands, lips and perhaps other areas of your body? · Also notice the air against your skin, for example the face and perhaps the arms
Coming into secure attatchment exersice: (all attatchment styles)
• Think of a person whom you may or could have counted on. One, as you have or have had a positive relationship with. It may be in less time. Or just the person at the counter in the supermarket, who smiled kindly to you. If you can not think of any person, then Think of an animal ... or maybe nature or something spiritual • Feel the love, the warmth, the support, the care, the presence, the friendliness or whatever is positive in this regard • Notice what mood it gives you • Notice in your body what feelings it gives in the body. Typical sensations are: Warmth, calm, weight, relaxation, ease, space, joy, the trimblings, champagne bubbles ect. But there may also be excitement, fear, lack, longing, sadness, sorrow or even anger. Give it permission and accept these feelings / sensations and give them love / warmth / care if you can • Repeat this activity several times a day
Write a love letter to yourself like if you were your own girlfriend or boyfriend. It has to be handwritten. Imagine that you were the lucky one who had your eyes on you and had fallen in love with you. Write down what you would had fallen for, what you feel being together with you, (that you make you laugh, that you have a big heart, that you are wonderful making love to ect.) You are allowed to think how you would like to be seen as by a future partner. What would you just love that the person was able to see in you ? Maybe some of the things that you are not that fond/proud of in yourself and that you have a problem to love ?
It can be very heeling to write this down. To write it and also to receive it. You can post it for real and send it by mail to yourself.
When you will receive the letter make yourself a nice cup of tea or coffee, open the letter and read it slowly. Loud. Feel what happens in your body. All feelings are healing. Also mourning/sorrow. Try if you can take in the meaning of the letter.
This is a fantastic training to be able to receive love. This is so important in love life. Sometimes we just have to receive and not do so much in love life. Say thank you! And know that you deserve to be loved. ,💌
Transition time: The masculine needs transition time. Go into their "nothing box" and need longer transition time after work ect.(5-30 min. doing "nothing"). The masculine shifts slowly and the feminine shifts fast. Transition time: walk in Nature, meditate, playing computer games, relax on the way home from work (bus, 🚆 train), shifting TV channels, kayaking, ect.
The feminine can't really multi task, but the feminine can shift quickly between different kind of tasks ect. It can also be a good idea also for the feminine to take some transition time.
Golden Milk Serves: 2 2 cup milk of choice (cow, soy, almond, coconut) 1 inch slice fresh ginger 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon ground turmeric ¼ teaspoon ground cardamom 1 pinch ground black pepper 2 teaspoons honey
In a small pot, bring all ingredients to a simmer. Cook for 10 minutes. Remove from heat. Can be served warm or cold.
Good for: adrenal fatigue, burnout, autoimmune conditions and other conditions that have inflammatory characteristics, such as ulcerative colitis, fibromyalgia, chronic skin conditions, and other debilitating ailments that leave a person in ill health. Also good for pms, sore joints ect
Your kidneys and adrenals are the little powerhouses of the stress response. When we go into a stress response, they activate and react severely to the stimulus (the stressor), by contracting and secreting your main fast-acting stress chemical – adrenaline.
If the stress continues, cortisol, another major stress hormone, releases into the bloodstream.
If our stress level stays elevated for too long, and we don’t come down and out of the stress response, these chemicals, both adrenaline but especially cortisol, become toxic to the body systems. This continual secretion of cortisol is what, over time, creates adrenal fatigue, burnout, and in the worst case scenario, autoimmune conditions and other conditions that have inflammatory characteristics, such as ulcerative colitis, fibromyalgia, chronic skin conditions, and other debilitating ailments that leave a person in ill health.
Many of our classic chronic conditions in the Western world are a direct result of this stress response being always on, the chemicals never re-absorbing back into the body, and the body not being able to repair fast enough to keep up with the breakdown.
How to make your love vision: Describe your vision as concrete and vivid as possible. Describe the vision so that you feel it, feel your enthusiasm and joy over the things that are in it Describe it in present and positive formulations. What you want to get. Or already have and would like to keep on having Describe the feelings, sensations, moods and experiences that you would like to have in love life, these are the ones that open you to love and get it attracted!
There are several love visions: 1) The love for yourself: How do you treat yourself, how do you show yourself love, what do you do to feel safe in your everyday life, do you fail on yourself? Make loving steps towards yourself, take a small step every day. Make a self-love diary. Write 3-5 points each night about what you might have thought, said, done to pamper yourself. Read your vision from time to time.
EVERY DAY ACTIVITY: To attend - Notice the breath! - All attatchment styles
It is incredibly simple and effective, especially if you use it daily. It can eventually make you master in feeling your body. In addition, it can help you land your autonomic nervous system if you get activated (the nervous system becomes high stressed): When you are used to making this breath, it will often balance you back and give you peace.
Start doing the exercise for 2-5 minutes, for example, just before you fall asleep in the evening. Or when you come home from work. Or before you start work in the morning. Later you can use it for a longer time 10-20-30 minutes.
· Be sure to be (reasonably) undisturbed as long as you will learn to focus on your breath. Later you can use it whenever and wherever · Sit, lay down or stand up, close your eyes (not if you are sitting in a meating or you are standing in line (you can also do the exercise with open eyes open) · If you tend to fall asleep during such activities, take a bundle of keys in your hand. Bend the elbow and stab it on the surface while holding the keys in your hand. When you fall asleep, you will lose the keys and wake up to the sound and your arm will hit the ground · Be aware of your breath without changing it · Notice that your body is breathing, you do not need to do anything. You also need to not analysee why it is such - or judge whether it's good or bad. The body will breath by itself completely automatic · Just notice that you breathe without doing anything else · Whenever a thought, image or feeling comes up, just turn back to your breath with your attention. There may be thoughts, etc. Do not be angry or irritated, just accept them and then shift your attention back to your breathing