Post by alexandra on Sept 27, 2020 8:27:33 GMT
MariBrown, I'm sorry you were in a hurtful and confusing situation.
I wouldn't send that because it's assuming a lot about how he's feeling. You don't know if he took your words as, we can't have sex so why bother, or even if he knew you were angry. From what you said in your post, you just sounded clear that it was over and it didn't sound particularly disrespectful.
If you want to send something, make it about what you want to say without assuming anything about his feelings that he hasn't actually shared with you. If you're looking to be on good terms and possibly for a no-agenda platonic friendship, you can ask how his recovery is going, and also apologize for your last message possibly sounding harsh and mention that you were feeling hurt that he hadn't told you about his medical condition earlier.
I'm not sure if this is actually the case, but it sounds from your post like you didn't actually communicate that you felt hurt by that at any point, which is why it seems you feel there's unfinished business?
I wouldn't send that because it's assuming a lot about how he's feeling. You don't know if he took your words as, we can't have sex so why bother, or even if he knew you were angry. From what you said in your post, you just sounded clear that it was over and it didn't sound particularly disrespectful.
If you want to send something, make it about what you want to say without assuming anything about his feelings that he hasn't actually shared with you. If you're looking to be on good terms and possibly for a no-agenda platonic friendship, you can ask how his recovery is going, and also apologize for your last message possibly sounding harsh and mention that you were feeling hurt that he hadn't told you about his medical condition earlier.
I'm not sure if this is actually the case, but it sounds from your post like you didn't actually communicate that you felt hurt by that at any point, which is why it seems you feel there's unfinished business?