How do I ask my DA partner to meet me after a break?

I don't know that AP's have an "MO" to disrespect boundaries at all. I have a lot of AP and anxiously leaning FA friends and they respect my boundaries just fine if I explain them with warmth. Disrespectful and abusive people violate clearly stated boundaries, and they come in all attachment styles in my own experiences.

And we're not really discussing first dates on this forum usually. The partners of avoidants who come here are usually in long term relationships, and they are unaware of "the boundaries" because they get silence and deactivation rather than simple clear expression of boundaries. I find most of the forum members to be kind, good people who feel like they are in the dark because they don't get the communication they need, and their healthy attempts to resolve conflict are thwarted. They feel ostracized, abandoned, and afraid because of their partner's distances and breakups, confused by the cycling back, and would LOVE to hear them say exactly what to do to make things right. But they don't get that, because conflict resolution and clear communication promote closeness, not to mention equality. And maintaining distance , on their own terms, without compromise, is the avoidant's "MO".