Can an avoidant attracted to an avoidant turn anxious?

I'm guessing, only if you don't know anything about attachment theory. I never dated in my teens. Then during my 20s I had a number of relationships, all lasting under a year, that followed a similar pattern ... I would pursue, and then progressively panic more and more once it became established, until a breakup for one reason or another. In hindsight, this was avoidant attachment, more fearful than dismissive in my case probably. Then in my 30s I met someone that was very DA, although I didn't know it at the time. It lasted 2 1/2 years, mainly because I got to fill the pursuer role the whole time because her avoidance was more severe then mine ... it just never reached the stable level where my panic would normally start. And when she ended it, suddenly and unexpectedly of course, I was the one who was devastated. I'm talking about the final axe here, we broke up a number of times for a days to 2 weeks over the time. It was only in the aftermath and struggling to understand that I learned about attachment for the first time.

Basically, avoidants are good at the initial phase, the pursuing phase. And this relationship allowed me to be in the pursuing phase for over 2 years. So the panic that sets in after that phase never happened. And at the end, I turned into the anxious one because she was far more avoidant than me. None of this is a good picture though, it's all very dysfunctional. And it would never have happened if I had known what I know now about this stuff.

Absolutely - I am avoidant ish - have always been so in previous relationships until I met a severely FA man - we ended up in the pursuit phase for our whole relationship so he was never trigerred but I became more and more anxious. Not a pretty picture

I am not great at emotional attachment - don't really feel jealousy, happy with my own company but still desire connection with my partner, ideally live together but seperate maybe houses next door to each other so each can have space, see each other a couple of times a week but despite this believe in marriage, monogamy etc - I've been married but found I lost myself to the needs of kids, very domineering husband. I believe in love, compassion and respect within a relationship even if I can't handle the kind of constant closeness that many couples manage.

Ex - 48 never married, one child (unintentional pregnancy) Marriage or the thought of it brings him out in cold sweat. Doesn't want cohabitation, quite content with one or two dates a week, no hanging out together. Said I love you once in 7 years (early on when he was drunk) end of relationship I said I was finding some things difficult and wanted to ask for his help - his answer was "Whatever you want" - counselling " I can't see the point" . I think it takes two people to make a relationship healthy and functional but in this one all the pressure was on me. I know in my marriage my ex husband pushed for counselling etc but by that time I had checked out so to speak.

Interesting....the avoidant person I spoke of above ALSO almost verbatim described the same ideal living situation of two connected homes, etc. etc. It must be quite the common avoidant fantasy!

I wonder if this has to do with the severity of the avoidance. I have been DA with every romantic partner and I can't imagine being attracted to another DA. I wonder if those who switch depending on the person are less avoidant or more a mixture of both?

Yes definitely. I think it feels safe to pursue when there is someone else who creates distance and sometimes quite fun to be in the alternate position. It is horrible always feeling you need to run away from the other person.
In my experience of dating other avoidants, it has either gone nowhere or there has been a battle for who retains the most power (by being avoidant).
The only person I fell for deeply was highly avoidant, but after a year or so in his current relationship seems to be very expressive about his feelings for his partner (at least on Facebook). Different combinations I guess!