Post by tnr9 on Dec 21, 2020 14:50:44 GMT
I had never before considered how critical having options is for me....growing up I felt I had very little control on things that were happening to and around me and my response was to shut down or resist anything that felt like an obligation. In fact...it has now become a running joke between my mom and I that if she wants me to do anything, she should suggest that I do not do it. But in all earnest....it has been a real hindrance to my self care as I spent sooo much time in a fight mode with my parents. I now realize that I have a need for options....I have a need to have a voice in any and all decisions that impact me which is why I can’t date someone who won’t honor that need. I am also altering my self talk language to be more open and choice driven.
