Today I feel very avoidant....

I have this friend...she is a great friend but she is also FA and we tend to take opposite roles from each other.  Today she is anxious.....very anxious.  She did not sleep well and is unsure about our plans to meet up.  She texts all about how she could not sleep but that she should go out.  She then tells me to go ahead with mine.....at which point I realize my walls are up.  Of course I am going to continue with my plans I think.  Then I realize..,I am low on capacity...and when I am low on capacity...I am low on compassion.  I pull in, I put up walls....I start to think in terms of “knowing” what she meant and resenting her for it.  I feel she has overstepped a boundary related to my sense of autonomy.  I have felt that before from her.  We were shopping and she would say things like...you should treat yourself, you should buy it.  It rubbed me wrong....like she felt the need to somehow have a say....and it felt a lot like an obligation rather then a choice.  In any event....I just wanted to raise this here.  Still learning...