I'm finally able to look back and see my own family dynamics and how they are playing a major role in my adult relationships.
The biggest thing with my sister - and I honestly wish I could put a finger on what this is exactly b/c a friend said she feels like her husband is like this toward her, and I felt my ex was like this - is the feeling of not being liked.
Has anyone ever experienced that? It's very very very subtle. Like not even passive-aggressive. It's just somehow in her communication always a kind of "presence" - like I can just sort of hear this, (read snooty voice) "Eh, you are just so - eh. Like yuck." Like that's what I hear. Or just disapproval. Something. I can't again put a finger on it and if you read texts you wouldn't see it. It's like the dog whistle only I can hear but I know it's real.
I tried to explain this to a friend and she was like "OMG that's how I feel around my husband" (they have a lot of issues). And I had this with my ex. Like he can somehow communicate - I guess in his energy - that I'm really the stupidest or most despicable human on the planet. And HE has to like DEAL with me.
Anyway, more happened today and I finally addressed it with my sister and said something and her response back showed me pretty much the developmental age she operates at - which is somewhere between like age 6 and 16, depending.
But has anyone ever felt this - know what I'm talking about? is it a DA thing? Something else?