Post by timaeustestified on Jul 24, 2021 7:43:02 GMT
Hi everyone! I'm Miles, I'm 15, male, and I'm new here 
I was reading about attachment types and it piqued my interest (anything to try and sort out the mess that is my brain)
But I can't tell what my type is: Anxious preoccupied or Dismissive Avoidant?
I feel like for the most part I'm anxious preoccupied, but when it comes to sex I become Dismissive avoidant,,, which is strange.
It's not that I don't ENJOY sex or experience sexual attraction, it's just that intimacy in that way intimidates me and I find myself backing out a lot... like if I'm not in a specific mood, nothing is gonna get me hard, and if Im sad over some stupid shit I'm not gonna fuck :/
And I think that's the Anxious Preoccupied part of me kicking in. Im DESEPRATE for love and validation, and it's like I have this hole inside me that just feels like a dark pit that screams to me that I'm unloved and to tell me I am is to throw scraps of paper into the bottomless neverending canyon.
My boyfriend is proabably annoyed with me but that's just how I am...
As for conflict, I am able and willing to confront people... but not my parents. If it's my parents, i get scared and shut up. I used to have bad anger issues so I was very much ready to defend myself but now I've really softened out... ive sorta become like, a sad emo poet whose poetry is shit but it's his only talent... pathetic and sad. I go to parties a lot though, so I'm not a TOTAL loser... and engage in way too much reckless behaviour... petty crime, drugs and the like.
Its weird, it's like my attachment style changes depending on the situation (?)
Is it possible to be Anxious Preoccupied normally but then Distant Avoidant when your partner wants to fuck? I love him and I am attracted to him but I just. Withdraw. I think I'm scared to be vulnerable like that.
What do you guys think my type is? I read like a little paragraph and that's it, I'm no expert.
It's like I'm needy and clingy but only in a romantic sense...
I was reading about attachment types and it piqued my interest (anything to try and sort out the mess that is my brain)
But I can't tell what my type is: Anxious preoccupied or Dismissive Avoidant?
I feel like for the most part I'm anxious preoccupied, but when it comes to sex I become Dismissive avoidant,,, which is strange.
It's not that I don't ENJOY sex or experience sexual attraction, it's just that intimacy in that way intimidates me and I find myself backing out a lot... like if I'm not in a specific mood, nothing is gonna get me hard, and if Im sad over some stupid shit I'm not gonna fuck :/
And I think that's the Anxious Preoccupied part of me kicking in. Im DESEPRATE for love and validation, and it's like I have this hole inside me that just feels like a dark pit that screams to me that I'm unloved and to tell me I am is to throw scraps of paper into the bottomless neverending canyon.
My boyfriend is proabably annoyed with me but that's just how I am...
As for conflict, I am able and willing to confront people... but not my parents. If it's my parents, i get scared and shut up. I used to have bad anger issues so I was very much ready to defend myself but now I've really softened out... ive sorta become like, a sad emo poet whose poetry is shit but it's his only talent... pathetic and sad. I go to parties a lot though, so I'm not a TOTAL loser... and engage in way too much reckless behaviour... petty crime, drugs and the like.
Its weird, it's like my attachment style changes depending on the situation (?)
Is it possible to be Anxious Preoccupied normally but then Distant Avoidant when your partner wants to fuck? I love him and I am attracted to him but I just. Withdraw. I think I'm scared to be vulnerable like that.
What do you guys think my type is? I read like a little paragraph and that's it, I'm no expert.
It's like I'm needy and clingy but only in a romantic sense...
