Post by tnr9 on Aug 8, 2021 16:04:42 GMT
Aug 7, 2021 11:04:10 GMT tnr9 said:
Thank you krolle for filling in the gaps so to speak. I recognize a bit of that in B actually and it makes sense because his dad was in the military and used a belt very liberally on him so trust was definitely an issue.You're welcome tnr9. I'm glad it helped you recognise a behavioural pattern. I hope it helped other too who are confused.
Though I will say that I was hit a lot as a child as a disciplinary action too, and it never bothered me. At least for me personally, the physical stuff left no trauma or trust issues. Because the pain and damage was very short lived.
All my trust issues are more related to psychological manipulation. I have little fear of a 250lb guy punching me in the face for example (though of course I'd prefer to avoid it). But I might feel terror at the thought of my 98lb girlfriend sewing a web of lies and deciept to get me in trouble with the police, or perhaps faking a pregnancy etc.
My examples are gender specific. But only by virtue of the fact that I'm a heterosexual male. So my experience of relationship manipulation mostly comes from women. I'm sure men can be equally calculating so I'm not judging. I just don't experience it from that side.
Ithink my brother has some of what you are speaking about because he has felt very emotionally manipulated by our mom since the divorce. He basically had to fill the role of the good kid. He is still angry at her for that.