Post by Deleted on Oct 21, 2021 20:39:20 GMT
This question is for the anxiously attached, or FA or anyone who can relate.
My boyfriend has had dreams about me cheating on him. He tells me in a way that shows me he doesn't think I would do that, (I would never!! The thought is painful and sad and impossible to even imagine.)
He's had some powerful hits in his personal life lately that nat ave made him feel vulnerable or triggered things. Things are warm and great between us. We have lots of time together and prefer our free time to be together in fact. He does seems to take issue with me being on my phone with texting but I have to do that a lot to keep in touch with my clients, and my kids and grandkids.
The dreams involve me texting other men, and he finds out that I'm cheating in the dream and it hurts him really badly (understandably). I have had dreams that were so real I wake up feeling gutted. But not about this.
I read about it, that cheating dreams are pretty common and stem from internal insecurity or from issues in the relationship that are unaddressed. We haven't had as much intimate (sexual) interaction as previously because of my cycle schedule and travel etc (he's been away more to get our boat ready for winter. He's gone at the moment and will return in a few days. )
Anyway, I was looking for input , if you have had these kinds of dreams and how you dealt with them, how they impacted you. I did ask him to talk more about it when he reveled this to me, and I asked him if he ever worries about that in waking life. He said no. So I would like to take him at his word out of respect for his communication to me. We hugged and stuff. I told him I love him and would never betray him. I think he really knows this!
I know it may just be his stuff. But it has me kind of sad. I wish I could relieve him of that awful experience. I don't like that Im the one doing that even if it's just a dream.
My boyfriend has had dreams about me cheating on him. He tells me in a way that shows me he doesn't think I would do that, (I would never!! The thought is painful and sad and impossible to even imagine.)
He's had some powerful hits in his personal life lately that nat ave made him feel vulnerable or triggered things. Things are warm and great between us. We have lots of time together and prefer our free time to be together in fact. He does seems to take issue with me being on my phone with texting but I have to do that a lot to keep in touch with my clients, and my kids and grandkids.
The dreams involve me texting other men, and he finds out that I'm cheating in the dream and it hurts him really badly (understandably). I have had dreams that were so real I wake up feeling gutted. But not about this.
I read about it, that cheating dreams are pretty common and stem from internal insecurity or from issues in the relationship that are unaddressed. We haven't had as much intimate (sexual) interaction as previously because of my cycle schedule and travel etc (he's been away more to get our boat ready for winter. He's gone at the moment and will return in a few days. )
Anyway, I was looking for input , if you have had these kinds of dreams and how you dealt with them, how they impacted you. I did ask him to talk more about it when he reveled this to me, and I asked him if he ever worries about that in waking life. He said no. So I would like to take him at his word out of respect for his communication to me. We hugged and stuff. I told him I love him and would never betray him. I think he really knows this!
I know it may just be his stuff. But it has me kind of sad. I wish I could relieve him of that awful experience. I don't like that Im the one doing that even if it's just a dream.
