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Post by Hypatia on Dec 2, 2021 14:17:57 GMT
Today makes 45 days no contact with my FA ex.
He left in a terrible way, he did some awful things and walked out on our one year relationship.
I’m AP, and I’ve never managed to successfully go full NC. And I’m not doing it to play a game. I don’t think I’ll ever hear from him again (I’ve posted my full story on another thread) because he was just so damn awful and cruel in the end. I’ve never managed to control myself like this, to really not contact in any way, or through friends, etc. It hurts like hell, and my heart is broken, but I know it’s the best decision. Maybe I’m making progress? Anyway, it’s a bit of a milestone for me and I could sure use your support. It’s so difficult to just cut off someone you love, no matter how badly they treated you.
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Post by lovebunny on Dec 2, 2021 18:41:12 GMT
Yep. The urge to text, or scour social media, or talk about the person to anyone who will listen, can feel so powerful. But No Contact is one of the most powerful tools in healing from a bad breakup. The good news is, longer you do it, easier it gets. I found Natalie Liu's Baggage Reclaim website helpful when I struggled to maintain NC.
Good for you for recognizing that this is the right thing. We're rooting for you!
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Post by Hypatia on Dec 3, 2021 7:41:13 GMT
Yep. The urge to text, or scour social media, or talk about the person to anyone who will listen, can feel so powerful. But No Contact is one of the most powerful tools in healing from a bad breakup. The good news is, longer you do it, easier it gets. I found Natalie Liu's Baggage Reclaim website helpful when I struggled to maintain NC. Good for you for recognizing that this is the right thing. We're rooting for you! This site is great, thank you! |
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Post by Hypatia on Dec 3, 2021 7:41:27 GMT
Yep. The urge to text, or scour social media, or talk about the person to anyone who will listen, can feel so powerful. But No Contact is one of the most powerful tools in healing from a bad breakup. The good news is, longer you do it, easier it gets. I found Natalie Liu's Baggage Reclaim website helpful when I struggled to maintain NC. Good for you for recognizing that this is the right thing. We're rooting for you! This site is great, thank you! The Baggage Reclaim site I mean  |
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Post by stitchfull on Dec 3, 2021 9:28:52 GMT
Well done! Proud of you. I assume based on what you said you won't be reaching out...?
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Post by Hypatia on Dec 3, 2021 12:14:31 GMT
Well done! Proud of you. I assume based on what you said you won't be reaching out...? No, I won’t be. He was truly horrendous at the end. I know all breaks up are rough, but he seemed to go out of his way to be cruel, and did some pretty damn shitty things. It’ll be indefinite NC for me. It hurts so damn much but I can’t accept that behavior, and he never apologized. I doubt he ever will. I was his first serious relationship in 13 years, he had no idea what he was doing or who he is. I miss him like hell but I deserve better. |
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Post by stitchfull on Dec 5, 2021 0:20:07 GMT
Well done! Proud of you. I assume based on what you said you won't be reaching out...? No, I won’t be. He was truly horrendous at the end. I know all breaks up are rough, but he seemed to go out of his way to be cruel, and did some pretty damn shitty things. It’ll be indefinite NC for me. It hurts so damn much but I can’t accept that behavior, and he never apologized. I doubt he ever will. I was his first serious relationship in 13 years, he had no idea what he was doing or who he is. I miss him like hell but I deserve better. Well done to you for coming to this conclusion and terms with it. I wish I was stronger... |
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Post by Hypatia on Dec 5, 2021 7:24:08 GMT
No, I won’t be. He was truly horrendous at the end. I know all breaks up are rough, but he seemed to go out of his way to be cruel, and did some pretty damn shitty things. It’ll be indefinite NC for me. It hurts so damn much but I can’t accept that behavior, and he never apologized. I doubt he ever will. I was his first serious relationship in 13 years, he had no idea what he was doing or who he is. I miss him like hell but I deserve better. Well done to you for coming to this conclusion and terms with it. I wish I was stronger... I cry everyday. But I can’t control someone else’s feelings, I can only try to work on myself. It hurts like hell but life has to go on. |
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