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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2022 2:28:46 GMT
Seems to me, that most things that need to end don't end pretty. There's a lot to learn when things go awry but more often then not it seems you take what you learn into your new endeavors (and that's the only option if someone ends the relationship). If you're in a relationship that has real potential from both parties being in growth mode, it doesn't end like this. She ended it, making a clear statement about her willingness to grow or consider other possibilities. That's all to be said about that, she isn't where you're at with this. Leave her be, is my advice, and take what you're learning into your new relationships. As we evolve we choose better friends and better partners in life.
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Post by seeking on Jan 15, 2022 14:57:20 GMT
Thanks, again, everyone. This has really helped me see where I'm staying "small" in many ways.
And where I can get sucked in, easily, to being on someone else's side of the street.
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Post by tnr9 on Jan 16, 2022 4:49:28 GMT
Thanks, again, everyone. This has really helped me see where I'm staying "small" in many ways. And where I can get sucked in, easily, to being on someone else's side of the street. Enmeshment can be hard to break….but once I developed a true sense of where I ended physically…it became much easier to stay on my side of the street. Children cannot be responsible to themselves but adults can….so whenever I feel like I am being sucked into a place where the boundary between myself and the other person becomes blurred….I step back and ensure that I am only responsible for my side of the grass. That does not mean that I sit idly by if a friend is in trouble…I just don’t “own” their issue…so if they choose to not take my advice…then it isn’t personal.
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