Today I have the pleasure of talking with the world leading expert on the natural hormone Oxytocin. Kerstin Moberg is a specialist in woman’s health and female physiology and has worked within these fields for more than 30 years with the focus on the healing aspects of oxytocin. Kerstin has written several books about oxytocin, and its importance and positive impact on different processes in the body. Today we talk about touch, sex, chocolate, intimacy, relationships, busy business women and how to feel well trough these corona times. Enjoy.
- but that you train yourself to refuel yourself with love!
The more you experience enjoyment, pleasure, joy and love - the more you can be who you really are and give it to those you want to give to.
Prepare an evening where you will have (self) pleasure/enjoyment 👑🌺🎁🎉🔥🌈🍹🛀 and (self) love❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 on the program
Preparation: Have an undisturbed warm space, preferably decorated with flowers and cozy lighting, pillows and blankets. Also enjoy some lovely scents, taste experiences (eg delicious chocolates, sweet fruit, and other of your favorite flavors), oil for the body and delicious music for a sensual mood. Put a DO NOT DISTURB sign on your door….
A cozy place to be undisturbed e.g. dim lighting and perhaps candlelight decorated with flowers l a place to lie down blankets, pillows and warm temperature
Treats for your senses:
The sense of smell essential oil. - rose (the scent of love), lavender (encouraging, invigorating and soothing), pine needles (joy) - but only one of these at a time.
Feel touch, you can do it on the outside of the clothes. But more delicious if you're naked If you are naked you can use some delicious oil e.g. Almond oil, thistle oil or coconut oil are super good for the skin
Vision flowers other of your beautiful favorite things dimmed lighting and possibly candles
Hearing silence can sound beautiful music Layla Martins fuck yes playlist -
Taste sweet, like dark 70-80% chocolate, and small pieces of your favorite fruit others of your flavors - just in small chunks possibly salty e.g. peanuts Possibly. wine
Working with the 5 sences and your sensual/erotic energy: - using the combination of touch and the other senses
Line up the things, that you have prepared for this evening
Lie down, make yourself comftable Breath in and out 3 times - with longer exhales
Then do a body scan and wiggle your toes ect.
Imagine that you are experiencing Everything for the very first time
Then taste something as it is for the very first time / your wine, peanuts, strawberries. You can feel the things you are eating with your lips before you taste it.
Then Look at you body (or your partners body) as if you are looking at the body for the very first time.
Touch yourself (or your partner) as it is the first time (you can use your hands or a feather) like if your are touching yourself for the first time. Keep touching yourself, your breasts, your sex, your stomac ect where ever it feels comftable If you are with a partner, You can touch eachother in a sensuel Way or in a loving Way
Then find a sent and smell it, while you are still touching your body with your other hand
Then taste something while you are still touching yourself with the other hand
Then look at your body again as if you are looking at your body for the very first time while you are touching yourself with the other hand
Do Everything in slow motion
PLAY with sounds that comes out of your mouth. You can give yourself compliments (or give your partner compliments) while you are still touching yourself e.g.: “You are worth loving”, “you deserve love” - say the works out loud and listen as if you hear them for the very first time
Caress your body and breath down into your sex and breath out and let the energy spread into your pelvic floor
Breath in and let the energy go up through your spine and on exhale down on the front of your body while still touching yourself
Then let your body be still and let your body integrate what you have been experiencing through this exercise
How did this feel for you ?
A lot of people dont know how to be sensual in their daily life.
Notise What are the sensations in your body now
If you feel some erotic energy you can use it as life energy in your daily life Or you can use it to have sex with yourself or with your partner
Then say 3 things out loud that you are thankfull for 🙏
Then let yourself Ground to the surface you are lying on or to the surface you are sitting on
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Are you being the cool Girl in bed / when making love ?
The Cool Girl in bed is interested in her partner having a good time and enjoying sex. It is often sex on his terms. Often she does not know her own sexuality and during sex she is more concerned with how he feels than enjoying herself.
The Cool Girl In bed thinks (because she often doesn't say it out loud):
We don't need to spend time on me because it takes too long It's also a shame for him that he has to work so hard to make me come. It doesn't matter, that it hurts a little at first, it will soon pass We can skip the foreplay, we don't need to spend time on that We'll just do it your way because I don't know what I want anyway.
Sex like this will never be good for either party, it's a misguided consideration. Because The Cool Girl in bed does not enjoy sex and is not present in lovemaking. She has left her body.
The Cool Girl in bed must get to know her body and her desire, be able to ask for what she longs for, she must dare to take up space - because her pleasure is also important.
It can take a long time to get an orgasm. You can enjoy oral sex, even if you don't get an orgasm from it. It's okay to ask for more kisses and caresses. It's ok to say you're not ready for penetration yet. It is ok to ask for slow penetration so that you can be part of the process yourself
At first it may feel like you are demanding or selfish. But in reality, you take responsibility for yourself and your own sexuality. And you can ask for something sexual without being demanding or selfish.
Remember. That most men want a woman who is with them and enjoys lovemaking.
Do you have a Cool Girl inside you that shows up out in bed?
Then ask yourself:
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