Post by vampthingpsych on Mar 23, 2022 20:09:46 GMT
I started dating a friend who's in another country, we fell in love and started dating long distance, but the distance was too much for me, and even though she really made a big effort to give me reassurance in the process, she decided to end the relationship after I (unjustly) stated that in times I think this was just some "little adventure" with me. She got really offended by this, making me reflect in all she had done, including buying me plane tickets to go see her in April.
She said she didn't felt secure or comfortable in the relationship anymore and broke up with me, but we agreed that we were still seeing each other next month and that we would be physical (kissing, sex, etc.) but that it will be a "farewell".
She made clear that she didn't want to "close me the door", but for now that would be it. I went silent for two days, after that she sent me an instagram post about falling in love more of the idea (me of her) than the person. Today she uploaded a picture to her stories, two guys, one with the head of a rose and one with the head of a cactus with a flower, the rose-guy imagining just the flower and the cactus guy just imagining the thorns of the rose.
I interpreted it as me being the cactus guy, just looking at the wrong side of the her (therefore being needy and uncomfortable) and replied that I was sorry to make her feel that way and that I never looked just at the thorns and asking her how she was.
She told me that she thinks she was the one just looking at my thorns, after that she stated that she was pretty well and what about me. I ended up asking her if she was still okay with me traveling to see her which she replied she was and agreed to just focus on having a wonderful week together not thinking further about it. I am okay with it, I love her and want to see her very badly, but I'm wondering what she meant with the thorns picture. The picture is somehow saying that some people just want to look at the negative things, but I'm wandering if she is feeling remorse for breaking up.
She said she didn't felt secure or comfortable in the relationship anymore and broke up with me, but we agreed that we were still seeing each other next month and that we would be physical (kissing, sex, etc.) but that it will be a "farewell".
She made clear that she didn't want to "close me the door", but for now that would be it. I went silent for two days, after that she sent me an instagram post about falling in love more of the idea (me of her) than the person. Today she uploaded a picture to her stories, two guys, one with the head of a rose and one with the head of a cactus with a flower, the rose-guy imagining just the flower and the cactus guy just imagining the thorns of the rose.
I interpreted it as me being the cactus guy, just looking at the wrong side of the her (therefore being needy and uncomfortable) and replied that I was sorry to make her feel that way and that I never looked just at the thorns and asking her how she was.
She told me that she thinks she was the one just looking at my thorns, after that she stated that she was pretty well and what about me. I ended up asking her if she was still okay with me traveling to see her which she replied she was and agreed to just focus on having a wonderful week together not thinking further about it. I am okay with it, I love her and want to see her very badly, but I'm wondering what she meant with the thorns picture. The picture is somehow saying that some people just want to look at the negative things, but I'm wandering if she is feeling remorse for breaking up.
