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Post by anne12 on Apr 21, 2022 5:56:04 GMT
As Brené Brown so eloquently says:
“Midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close and whispers:
I’m not screwing around. All of this pretending and performing—these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt—has to go. Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy and lovable, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through your veins. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.”
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Post by anne12 on Apr 21, 2022 9:56:31 GMT
My wise friends who are a little older than me, taught me that you can say "Sorry, I have a tropical moment" 🌴😅 when the heat wave hits It's a bit more like being on an exciting holiday adventure ☺️
The importance of how we refer to meno pause / peri menopause
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Post by anne12 on Apr 21, 2022 10:15:51 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Apr 23, 2022 14:39:08 GMT
With reflexology and acupressure, you can relieve, ease and help yourself from home when you are suffering from unpleasant menstrual cramps. Heres a guide which many women find incredibly liberating for the pain. youtu.be/xvxBwqhwXzY
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Post by introvert on Apr 23, 2022 18:15:42 GMT
As Brené Brown so eloquently says: “Midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close and whispers: I’m not screwing around. All of this pretending and performing—these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt—has to go. Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy and lovable, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through your veins. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.” I love this! I'd like to have a print of it to frame and put in my office.
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Post by introvert on Apr 23, 2022 18:20:44 GMT
Update on my own progress with trying things to feel better: After almost three weeks I think using progesterone cream, I notice that I'm feeling a LOT better. What I've noticed consistently (every day for the last few days: More stamina in the gym with strength training and some cardio Happy mood HUGE improvement in fatigue which is probably a result of the much better sleep I'm getting. Less night waking, in fact last night I got a full 7 hours which has been rare the last 2-3 months.
Fenugreek is a pretty fast acting herb and I'm taking that as well. So idk what specifically to attribute my improved quality of life to, but Im feeling so much better Im just going to keep it up.
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Post by anne12 on Apr 28, 2022 1:13:00 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Apr 28, 2022 9:47:46 GMT
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Post by introvert on May 3, 2022 3:21:37 GMT
I'm so thankful my boyfriend has been willing to listen and learn as well... I haven't had radical personality changes but other symptoms have been debilitating at times. This topic is so far in the dark that not a single woman I have met was prepared for it or knew really how to handle it, and the professionals are not helpful. I prefer natural routes with herbs and such but wish that the entire subject wasn't so underground. It's absurd really. This is a phase of a woman's reproductive cycle how can it be so unimportant to society? Oh wait. Because that's the thing with women's issues lol!
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Post by anne12 on May 12, 2022 11:44:23 GMT
A decrease in estrogen over the years will cause dry mucous membranes It can cause pain during intercourse, itching, and multiple cystitis. It can cause dry mucous membranes, and can cause pain during intercourse Vulva also changes appearance. The labia become smaller and therefore provide less protection of the urethra Local estrogen therapy can be a helpfull
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Post by anne12 on May 16, 2022 5:56:52 GMT
One of the things that happens in connection with menopause is that our stress threshold changes.
It can be really scary and help to create the feeling that you do not know yourself. You are no longer the one who can do it all.
Maybe you also experience that your threshold has become lower? You may find that you are overwhelmed more quickly, can not accommodate too many people, can not handle so many tasks, that small everyday things that you usually can do without problems, can be completely unmanageable. But why is it happening?
There are many reasons why stress is a very common companion for menopause. My experience is that many women turn up to OA in a state of stress. Throughout a long life we have been there for everything and everyone, overheard our own needs and not listened to our feelings. We do not learn that it is not healthy for the body and that it can have consequences. But it has, dear ones. So when the body begins to change, as it naturally does, it is partly a burden for the body but there are also hormonal changes that cause our ability to handle stress to change. But is this a bad thing?
In my optics, it's actually really good. It is the body's way of saying no, of rebelling. It can no longer continue to exceed the limits of its capacity and resources. That is often what we have done. Therefore, in other words, you are calibrating your stress threshold. If you have encountered a high degree of stress, then your threshold is most likely lower now than before. The body is on its knees and must gather resources to get up to what is your normal level - the normal stress threshold.
But since many of us have exceeded the normal threshold many times, for example by overhearing our own needs, say yes when we mean no, bake a cake for the kids' class even if we needed to relax, make the house shine even if it was better for us to relax lying on the sofa - yes you know yourself all the places we as women often do more than is really needed - then there will simply be a mess in your stress starch. My point is that when we experience that the stress threshold is lowered in connection with meno pause/peri meno pause then it is a good thing, an opportunity to be more gentle with yourself, not push yourself more but listen to yourself and rediscover what is your normal threshold. Not SuperWoman's threshold (if she has one at all?).
So how are you with your new stress threshold? It is primarily about you having to accept that it is where it is. Next, there are probably a lot of adjustments in your mindset, your thoughts, and your perception of what you should be doing.
That's why I'm so excited about peri meno pause/meno pause. it shows us the way. It's a new road that many of us have not walked before and it's scary, it's unsafe but it's an absolutely fantastic road if you dare.
There is so much light, so beautiful views and so many depths and a whole new way of being in life waiting for you.
So how do you feel about your stress threshold? Has it changed and how have you adjusted to it?
A peri meno pause / a meno pause mentor
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Post by anne12 on Jul 5, 2022 12:57:12 GMT
Kerstin Uvnäs Moberg found among other things that oxytocin reduces pain and anxiety, decreases blood pressure and reduces the levels of stress hormones in both sexes. She also found that the speed, by which wounds and other types of physical damage heal, increases and that atrophic (thin) mucosal membranes become rejuvenated. The latter research findings form the basis for patents and clinical studies with the aim to create a pharmaceutical drug for relief of menopausal symptoms.
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Post by elizabeth on Jul 5, 2022 20:04:44 GMT
Herbs for libido include maca, fenugreek, and there is a lot of information about over the counter bio identical progesterone cream which is very interesting. Women's health is poorly understood by the medical community, in my opinion! And Pharmaceutical companies drive the narrative on what we need. My go to is natural, herbal... and it takes patience because in peri things are always fluctuating. I just started maca as an adaptogen, because of the research that supports its use for peri. And also using progesterone cream (good for wrinkles, too). hey, i had started taking maca root powder too. i read that you are not meant to take it every day or the effectiveness wears off. i dont know if it is true, but i was thinking i would maybe take it two weeks on and two weeks off but was trying to figure out what is the best time in my cycle to take it (altho my cycle can hardly be called a cycle anymore, so i dont know!) then i found this stuff on amazon called Balanced Femme (Natural PMS and Menopause Support for Hot Flashes with Black Cohosh). it had thousands of reviews and good comments, so i tried it, and it really does seem to level me out. it also contains maca root and some other natural things as well. i hope i don`t OD on Maca! 
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Post by elizabeth on Jul 5, 2022 20:11:53 GMT
As Brené Brown so eloquently says: “Midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close and whispers: I’m not screwing around. All of this pretending and performing—these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt—has to go. Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy and lovable, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through your veins. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.” <3
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Post by elizabeth on Jul 5, 2022 20:15:14 GMT
Update on my own progress with trying things to feel better: After almost three weeks I think using progesterone cream, I notice that I'm feeling a LOT better. What I've noticed consistently (every day for the last few days: More stamina in the gym with strength training and some cardio Happy mood HUGE improvement in fatigue which is probably a result of the much better sleep I'm getting. Less night waking, in fact last night I got a full 7 hours which has been rare the last 2-3 months. Fenugreek is a pretty fast acting herb and I'm taking that as well. So idk what specifically to attribute my improved quality of life to, but Im feeling so much better Im just going to keep it up. can you get progesterone cream otc? i am a bit scared of progesterone because the last time i encountered it was about 5 years ago when i was reluctantly switched to a progesterone only birth control pill and it made me feel VERY depressed and low, i stopped taking and instantly felt better. i havent taken any birth control since. but maybe a topical cream would have a different effect and my body is probably in a completely different place now than it was 5y ago.
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