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Post by unknown1991 on Sept 12, 2022 17:38:40 GMT
What does a dismissive avoidant mean by saying "I don't think I can give u what u deserve"? After ignoring me for a whole week after a disagreement. Do they sincerely regret their behaviour?
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Post by introvert on Sept 12, 2022 17:43:33 GMT
What does a dismissive avoidant mean by saying "I don't think I can give u what u deserve"? After ignoring me for a whole week after a disagreement. Do they sincerely regret their behaviour? There is no indication of remorse or regret in those words, take it for what it says exactly and that is whatever they feel you deserve, they can't give it to you. It is highly unlikely that you two share the same perspective of the disagreement and the individual roles you played. There is no reason to assume that they view their behavior in the same light as you do, and therefore may not feel the regret you think they should. Be clear that no one here can tell you what this person is thinking, and if you want an accurate read on what they mean then you need to address it with them.
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Post by alexandra on Sept 12, 2022 18:30:51 GMT
unknown1991, it is also an acknowledgment that you two have different needs in a relationship and they are not compatible. Sometimes it doesn't matter if feelings for each other are strong, two people still don't quite gel in the way a relationship requires. And that's not a bad thing, it doesn't say anything about him or you, it doesn't lead to remorse or regret. It's just a neutral circumstance, and that's okay.
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Post by introvert on Sept 12, 2022 23:21:01 GMT
I might add, without being able to read him mind, that it's truly a dismissive comment in my opinion. By that I mean I would take it as being dismissed.
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