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Post by mysteryuser on May 9, 2023 20:07:35 GMT
You're right, I try to incorporate that in my 25min walk to class everyday! @introvert alexandra how long did it take for you to impact any sort of mindfulness to affect your relationship and understand of yourself? I'm not coming from a place of urgency, but many of my attempts to consistently do it have been more chore-like to me than beneficial, so it would help to know your experience. |
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Post by mysteryuser on May 9, 2023 20:08:26 GMT
What I took away from therapy was that sometimes it takes ages to internalize something, IE feel it at an emotional level. And in order to get there it's simply repetition. So that is why for me at least it's a fake it until I make it approach. Progress is made through tiny little baby steps and rarely some grand ah-ha moment. I understand what you mean. Are there specific/active steps you took to incorporate this in your life when you "faked" it? |
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Post by alexandra on May 9, 2023 20:54:38 GMT
As I said in my comment, about 18 months, done simultaneously with other work through my attachment issues. And it wasn't intentional mindfulness at all, so I wasn't aware I was doing it until after the long-term repetition of the routines. What was most important was the fluidity of the "interruption." I'd leave work and go work out, so I was doing quick shifts between being in a work mindset and then switching into (in this case) a yoga mindset, and then switching back to hustle and bustle life after an hour of being in my body. So I think that contributed to interrupting stress and anxiety and coming back from my thoughts being all over the place to focused on something physical and completely different that I was doing. And then much later I realized it was actually very valuable for subconsciously processing and interrupting stress to focus on myself in another way, which then applies to staying present and coping with stress in the moment later once it gets internalized (and as cherrycola said, internalizing emotional changes can seem to take forever, and I found you can't predict when it happens, it just does when it does as long as you stick with the positive steps you're taking to get there over time). |
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2023 21:01:22 GMT
You're right, I try to incorporate that in my 25min walk to class everyday! @introvert alexandra how long did it take for you to impact any sort of mindfulness to affect your relationship and understand of yourself? I'm not coming from a place of urgency, but many of my attempts to consistently do it have been more chore-like to me than beneficial, so it would help to know your experience. I received almost immediate benefits, but I started practicing this when between relationships as a way to handle stress. It's a form of self regulation which I think comes a little easier to avoidant types, so I can notice a shift internally that feels empowering, and I noticed it very early on. However, it is a practice that grows over time with dedication and discipline, and it's contributed to a global change in how I approach life. All of my relationships have benefitted, including the one with myself. I don't really know how long it took to really begin to transform me, but the transformation is real. It is a commitment. |
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