Post by nowutellme on Jun 8, 2016 8:41:52 GMT
I couldn't sleep last night and in the middle of thinking about my problems I started Googling. I don't have the time right now to explain because I also have issues with procrastination and use the web to waste time. I'm always late!
i know now I'm a Fearful-Avoidant to the point I stopped going to therapy when I felt I was beginning to change. I didn't want to lose 'me', just not have the problem anymore!
What I find out recently about me and my family
1, My Mother had abusive parents but was trying very hard to avoid the same happening to us.
2. Both parents from very different cultures survived Civil War in their country.
3. I was brought up in a third country! Not easy to feel I belong but serving my country helps.
4. I'm one of 4 children. 3 of us have discussed our problems and found out we all have problems being intimate with our partners. Not easy to discuss with your brother! Easier with my sister. 4th brother has major issues but we have not dicussed this with him as he lives in another country to us. Not one of the above!
5. Not only do I have problems with intimate partners but also being close to friends and colleagues.
6. I also have huge issues with my spelling and grammer. It takes me ages to write anything correctly. Thank goodness for spell check! But this has held me back at work and I have low-self esteem about this issue.
7. I no longer take interest in my looks or health. I don't care about my clothing as long as it's clean. My weight has ballooned and I have problems with my hip and knee. Do I do the exercises I need? No I find other dumb things to do instead and my excuses to myself.
So I'm going to say thanks and looking forward to exploring issues.
Off to work I go!
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i know now I'm a Fearful-Avoidant to the point I stopped going to therapy when I felt I was beginning to change. I didn't want to lose 'me', just not have the problem anymore!
What I find out recently about me and my family
1, My Mother had abusive parents but was trying very hard to avoid the same happening to us.
2. Both parents from very different cultures survived Civil War in their country.
3. I was brought up in a third country! Not easy to feel I belong but serving my country helps.
4. I'm one of 4 children. 3 of us have discussed our problems and found out we all have problems being intimate with our partners. Not easy to discuss with your brother! Easier with my sister. 4th brother has major issues but we have not dicussed this with him as he lives in another country to us. Not one of the above!
5. Not only do I have problems with intimate partners but also being close to friends and colleagues.
6. I also have huge issues with my spelling and grammer. It takes me ages to write anything correctly. Thank goodness for spell check! But this has held me back at work and I have low-self esteem about this issue.
7. I no longer take interest in my looks or health. I don't care about my clothing as long as it's clean. My weight has ballooned and I have problems with my hip and knee. Do I do the exercises I need? No I find other dumb things to do instead and my excuses to myself.
So I'm going to say thanks and looking forward to exploring issues.
Off to work I go!
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